生活中哪些方面明白得太晚(二)
What did you learn too late in life?译文简介
网友:当其他国家的聪明孩子去医学院或获理工科得的高级学位时,这个国家最聪明的人会进入金融和法律行业,赚大钱。如果让我重新来过,我会选择金融专业,然后去华尔街工作。我认为一个35岁时候退休环游世界比拯救别人的生命感觉要好得多。
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What did you learn too late in life?
生活中哪些方面明白得太晚?
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That while smart kids in other countries go to med school or get advanced degrees in STEM, the smartest of the smart in this country go into finance and law and make bank. If I had to do it all over again I would have majored in Finance and gone to wall street. I think being a retired 35 year old travelling the world would feel much better than saving someone’s life.
当其他国家的聪明孩子去医学院或获理工科得的高级学位时,这个国家最聪明的人会进入金融和法律行业,赚大钱。如果让我重新来过,我会选择金融专业,然后去华尔街工作。我认为一个35岁时候退休环游世界比拯救别人的生命感觉要好得多。
Girls get attracted more to MONEY and LOOKS than your DREAMS and VISION. The earlier you digest this fact, the better it would be. (Applicable to some girls, feminists stay away please!)
The person whom you support the most may turn out to be the biggest backstabber in your life.
People want you to be successful, but not more than them.
When you become egoistic, everybody whom you interact with knows, except for yourself.
Learning how to deal with and influence people is very important.
People who seem to be the happiest on social media are usually the saddest in real life.
女孩们更在乎金钱和外表,而不是你的梦想和愿景。你越早理解这个事实,会越好。(适用于一些女孩,女权主义者请远离!)
你最支持的人可能是你一生中遇见过的最阴险的人。
人们希望你成功,但并不希望你比他们更成功。
当你变得自私自利时,除了你自己,与你交往的每个人都知道。
学习如何与人打交道并影响他人非常重要。
在社交媒体上看起来最快乐的人通常是现实生活中最悲伤的人。
Your time is your biggest asset.
We undervalue the people who care for us and stay by our side even through our darkest times and chase the ones who probably don’t even give a sh*t about us.
Money never grows exponentially in a bank account.
Public speaking is a wonderful skill to acquire.
Attitude is everything.
You’ll find competition in every aspect of your life. And people can go to any heights to pull you down.
People are selfish, a lot more selfish than you think.
你最大的投资就是投资自己,还有你是其中最糟糕的一笔投资。
你的时间是你最大的资产。
我们低估了那些关心我们的人,他们即使在我们最黑暗的时候也会站在我们身边,而我们追逐那些可能对我们不屑一顾的人。
银行账户中的资金永远不会呈指数增长。
公开演讲是一项很好的技能。
态度决定一切。
你会在生活的方方面面找到竞争,人们可以到任何高度把你拉下来。
人都很自私,比你想象的要自私得多。
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Your limits are created by your mind.
Negative thoughts are more destructive than nuclear bombs.
You have no control or right over the result, but you have complete control over your efforts.
Reading to the mind is what exercise is to the body.
Time invested in teenage years gives 10 times the results compared to the time invested in your 20s.
The easiest way to become successful is to analyse and implement what other successful people did.
True friendship is a myth.
即使你知道这一事实,需要的时间也总是比你想象中的花更多的时间。
你的极限是由你的头脑创造的。
消极思想比核弹更具破坏性。
你无法控制或无权控制结果,但你可以完全控制自己是否努力。
读书对心灵就像锻炼对身体一样重要。
青少年时期投入的时间的效率是20多岁时投入时间的10倍。
成功最简单方法是分析和实施其他成功人士所做的事情。
真正的友谊是一个神话。
Check yourself when you speak negative things about yourself. Your subconscious takes your affirmations very seriously.
No matter how expert you consider yourself to be, there exists someone who has way more expertise than you in a particular skill.
Procrastination can snatch your much deserved victory and give it to someone else.
Stop expecting, avoid comparing - and there you created a happy life for yourself.
Happiness is a choice.
You are like a grain, and your family is like husk. No matter how worthless they may seem to you right now, you need to be with them if you want to grow.
No matter what all the self proclaimed entrepreneurs boast on social media, your grades are important.
朋友和敌人都是基于自身利益。
当你谈论自己的负面事情时,检查一下自己。你的潜意识非常需要得到你的肯定。
无论你认为自己是多么的厉害,总有人在某一特定技能方面比你更有专长。
拖延会夺走你应得的胜利,并把它交给其他人。
停止期待,避免比较——这样你就为自己创造了幸福的生活。
幸福是一种选择。
你就像一粒谷物,你的家人就像一粒谷壳。无论他们现在对你来说有多么毫无价值,如果你想成长,你需要和他们在一起。
不管那些自称企业家的人在社交媒体上吹嘘什么,你的成绩都很重要。
Living your life trying to meet everyone else's expectations will not make you fulfilled or happy. I spent most of my life trying to do right by everyone else believing that it would one day pay off. Long story short, it didn't. The times in my life where I ignored everyone else's advice and did what I wanted were the best years of my life while doing what everyone expected of me lead to getting stuck in a rutt.
过着满足别人期望的生活不会让你感到满足或快乐。我一生大部分时间都在努力为别人做好事,相信总有一天会得到回报。长话短说,它没有。在我的生命中,当我无视别人的建议,做自己想做的事情时,那是我生命中最美好的时光,而当我做别人期望我做的事情时,那只会让我陷入困境。
That society will give you a set of rules to follow and they are not always correct.. every one will have a unique way of solving problem and that does not necessarily be majority's way ..
Example :
1. most parents ( at least in India) need their children to just be employed.. u might be interested in business. But may tend to go with your surroundings take
2. Love marriages are equally beneficial/dangerous as arranged marriage.. only you know which suits you.. your relatives/friends may dictate an idea to you which may not be necessarily right to you
3. That you need to save wealth for your next generation. Western culture does not encourage this. But the place you live will have a custom that you might tend to follow
So not everything that is defined in society is right.. few or most may be wrong. And what I learnt is to question everything..
社会会给你一套规则来遵循,但这些规则并不总是正确的。每个人都会有一种独特的解决问题的方法,而这不一定是大多数人的方法。
示例:
大多数父母(至少在印度)只需要他们的孩子就业就行了。你可能对商业感兴趣,但可能会随你周围的环境而变法
爱情婚姻与包办婚姻各有利弊。只有你知道哪个适合你。你的亲戚/朋友可能会向你口述一个想法,但这对你而言可能并不一定正确。
你需要为你的下一代储蓄财富。西方文化并不鼓励这样做。但是你住的地方会有一个你可能会遵循的习惯
所以,并不是社会上定义的一切都是对的。其中很少或大部分可能是错误的,我学到的东西就是质疑一切。
No matter how much depressed you’re with your problems in life, you will find people having pain in their life which is far beyond than your’s but still dealing it better than you.
Illustrating my pain:
About myself, I am a male in age group of 20’s.There was this girl whom I know from past 7 years. We were in same college and shared good bond of friendship. We were each other’s lifeline during problems in our life.We know everything about each other.Our life stories were open book for each other. She is the girl with most beautiful heart I have ever come across in my life. Gradually the friendship turned into love(Which was never expected from any end). But we couldn’t be together because of certain reasons. We love each other a lot but still can’t be together because of our family restrictions.We never had courage to ignore each other and stop talking because of our bond and love.Life was very good so far and we were happy in our life’s. Then,she had family pressure to get married, which she tried to ignore initially. Her mother was hospitalized due to hyper tension which led her to take decision to get married and She got married some days back . This was the most harsh truth which I never wanted to accept. I Cried a lot and still do. Hardly slept 1–2 hours till 2 weeks. Convinced myself with false expectation and did everything to come out of this but failed. It’s a very bad feeling with no hope’s to live happily further. Meanwhile I come to know problems of other people around me which is incomparable with mine.
无论你对生活中的问题感到多么沮丧,你都会发现人们在生活中遭受的痛苦远远超出了你的痛苦,但仍然比你处理得更好。
就我的痛苦举例:
关于我自己,我是一个20多岁的男性。在过去的7年里,我认识了一个女孩。我们在同一所大学,有着良好的友谊。在生活中遇到问题时,我们是彼此的生命线。我们知道彼此的一切。我们的生活故事对彼此来说都是公开的。她是我一生中遇到的拥有最美丽心灵的女孩。渐渐地,友谊变成了爱情(这是从来没有想过的)。但我们因为某些原因不能在一起。我们彼此深爱着对方,但由于家庭的限制,我们仍然不能在一起。因为我们建立的亲密关系和爱,我们从来没有勇气对对方不理睬而停止交谈。到目前为止,生活很好,我们的生活很幸福。然后,她有要结婚的家庭压力,她最初试图忽视这一压力。她的母亲因过度紧张而住院,这导致她决定结婚,几天前她结婚了。这是我从未想过要接受的最残酷的事实。我哭了很久,现在仍然哭。2周前几乎每天睡觉时间不到1-2小时。用错误的期望说服自己,并尽一切努力摆脱这种状况,但失败了。这是一种非常糟糕的感觉,对幸福地生活下去不再抱有希望。与此同时,我开始了解周围人的问题,那些问题是我的问题无法比拟的。
One of my college friend’s mother passed away all of sudden due to cardiac attack.
One of my colleague’s father is diagnosed with cancer and has very minimal chances to survive.He know his father is dying still see him with a fake and tensed smile.
One of my friend’s friend got accidentally pregnant by his boyfriend before marriage and when their parents agreed for their marriage, her boyfriend died in a road accident before the marriage.
Though Life is unfair, people still find out reasons to survive.
The biggest lesson life taught me very late is If you ever get a chance to exchange the problem/ pain of your life, you will end up taking back your own.
我们家的一位朋友在一次自行车事故中失去了他已经十几岁的唯一的儿子。
我的一位大学朋友的母亲因突发心脏病去世。
我的一位同事的父亲被诊断出患有癌症,他活下来的机会微乎其微。他知道他的父亲快死了,但仍然带着虚假而紧张的微笑看着他。
我朋友的一个朋友在婚前与其男友意外怀孕,当父母同意他们结婚时,她的男友在婚前死于车祸。
虽然生活是不公平的,但人们还是找到了生存的理由。
最近生活给我的最大教训是,如果你有机会交换你生活中的问题/痛苦,你最终会选择你自己的问题。
Shibasish Roy Sarkar,拉贾斯坦工业大学机械工程学士&产品设计文凭(2015)
One must know how to say ‘NO’
MONEY is not GOD but it’s NO LESS
Don’t be too emotional
DO NOT get too attached to someone
The importance of MARKS is more than MERIT in India
My country is too corrupt and too much divided on various basis
No one cares about anyone except them
God is delusional
在我的一生中,有一些东西是我认为了解得太晚了:
一个人必须知道如何说“不”
金钱尽管不是上帝,但也不相上下。
不要太情绪化
不要太依恋某人
在印度,分数的重要性超过了优点
我的国家太腐败,在各种基础方面存在太多分歧
没有人关心自己之外的任何人;
上帝是个妄想狂
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Math! not to knock the others but math is universal, you can’t fake this part of education in life, you either know how to do it are you don’t. Any young students reading this post please! make sure you concentrate on Math, Reading, and English they’re the pillars of all education, I didn’t know that in my younger life and it cost me dearly.
数学!我不是要批评别人,但数学是通用的,你不能假装这是生活教育的一部分,你要么知道怎么做,要么不知道。请阅读这篇文章的年轻学生一定要专注于数学、阅读和英语,它们是所有教育的支柱,我年轻时不知道这一点,为此付出了巨大的代价。
Nothing lasts forever.
Everybody knows this, but hardly a few people can learn the gist of these words.
You may argue with me about this, but believe me you’re enjoying or worrying about your present situation even though you know that the situation will be changed over time.
I learned the words and now, I don’t feel too happy or too sad at times of the upheavals of my situations.
If I’m happy, I know that I’m gonna be sad soon.
If I’m wrong, I know that I’m gonna be happy soon.
没有什么是永恒的。
每个人都知道这一点,但很少有人能了解这句话的大意。
你可能会就此与我争论,但请相信我,你正在享受或担心你目前的处境,尽管你知道随着时间的推移,情况会发生变化。
我学会了这句话,现在,当我的处境发生剧变时,我不会感到太高兴或太难过。
如果我快乐,我知道我很快就会悲伤。
如果我错了,我知道我很快就会幸福的。
To be practical.
Yes, I learned it too late.
I had always been an emotional fool. Believing the words without understanding the motive.
I took people on their face value.
I believed when they said you are my best friend.
I believed when someone said I love you.
I believed when someone praised on my face and later judged on my back.
I trusted people, because I had no reason not to, but I have failed most of the time.
Most people will ditch you at the first instance and the reason could be anything.
May be for a flinge.
May be for a women.
May be out of jealousy.
Being practical gives you a cushion, you take time to fall for others and even if you fall, you maintain a legit distance.
This distance helps you to keep your calm, overcome temporary set back which we often come across while engaging with people.
No one can control their external environment but we can definitely control our terms of engagement.
要切合实际。
是的,我了解得太晚了。
我一直是个情绪化的傻瓜。相信那些话而不理解其动机。
我根据人们的表面价值来衡量他们。
我相信他们所说的你是我最好的朋友。
当有人说我爱你时我相信。
当有人当面表扬我时,我相信了,后来又在我背后评判我。
我信任别人,因为我没有理由不相信,但大多数时候都信错了。
大多数人一开始会抛弃你,原因可能是任何事情。
可能是一时冲动。
可能是为了一个女人。
可能是出于嫉妒。
务实会给你一个缓冲,你会花时间为别人着想,即使你跌倒了,你也会保持一段合理的距离。
这种距离有助于你保持冷静,克服我们在与人交往时经常暂时遇到的挫折。
没有人可以控制他们的外部环境,但我们绝对可以控制我们的接触条件。
Before writing this answer I want to quote Bob Marley who once said “Money is numbers and numbers never end. If it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness will never end.”
Something which struck my mind for a very long time. I started believing in this statement so much that I lost focus of my goal. I do agree that money is JUST numbers but numbers CAN make you happy. Money gives you satisfaction in life. The satisfaction that you can fulfill all your wishes and all your dreams. Money is a necessity of life.
Human Being is a social animal who has many problems in life. This animal is being trapped in a decaying body in a money hungry society on a dying planet. Even if you don’t agree to this, I bet some time later in your life you WILL agree to this statement of mine.
Sometimes the only requirement in life is of Money. Money satisfies human desires and needs. Everything can be measured in terms of money. If you have money, you have reputation in society. If you don’t, nobody gives a shit about you. This is how the society functions.
Admit this and work. Work your ass off to earn money as much as you can. Even if you want to sacrifice some of your initial years in life. At least after that you will have the option of quitting your job if you won’t find money to be lucrative.
So, to answer your question in brief, Money is as much important in life as oxygen. You can’t live without it. This is the lesson I learned too late in my life.
在写下这个答案之前,我想引用鲍勃·马利(BobMarley)的一句话:“金钱就是数字,数字永远没有终点。如果需要金钱才能快乐,那么你对幸福的追求将永远不会结束。”
这件事在我脑海里萦绕了很久。我开始如此相信这句话,以至于我失去了目标的焦点。我同意金钱只是数字,但数字可以让你快乐。金钱让你在生活中感到满足。满足你所有的愿望和梦想。金钱是生活的必需品。
人类是一种社会动物,生活中有很多问题。在一个濒临死亡的星球上,这个动物被困在一个渴求金钱的社会里,被困在一个腐烂的身体里。即使你不同意这一点,我打赌在你生命的的后期,你会同意我的这一声明。
有时生活中唯一的要求就是金钱。金钱满足人类的欲望和需求。一切都可以用金钱来衡量。如果你有钱,你在社会上就有声誉。如果你没钱,没人会在乎你。这就是社会的运作方式。
承认这一点并努力工作,拼命工作,尽可能多地挣钱。即使你要想去牺牲你生命中最初的几年。至少在那之后,如果你发现没钱可赚,你可以选择辞职。
所以,简单地回答你的问题,在生活中金钱和氧气一样重要。你不能没有它,这是我这辈子学到的太晚的教训。
Here is the list
Don't be too available for everyone people may think you are free enough
Its not necessary that you receive good in resulting of giving good
God do nothing but increase our will power
When you are not okay it's your mumma who can recognise easily
One who always say “I will be there na” will not be there when it's really needed
Many a times people don't mean what they have said
Term forever is myth
People used you according to their needs
Very few are here who maintain trust
People demand continuous progress from us we are not allowed to go down
Maturity comes with experience not with age
Will upxe the list
Thanks and Regards
这是清单:
不要在每个人找你时都非常有空,人们可能会认为你足够自由;
你没有必要因为给予善而得到善;
上帝只会增加我们的意志力;
当你不舒服的时候,你的妈妈很容易辨认出来;
一个总是说“我会在那里”的人,在真正需要的时候,却不会出现在那里。
很多时候,人们说的都不是真心话;
“永远”这个词是神话;
人们根据需要使用你;
这里很少有人保持信任;
人们要求我们不断进步,我们不允许堕落;
成熟来自经验,而不是年龄;
将更新列表;谢谢和问候。
If you don’t try, you will never know.
If you don’t ask, you will never get an answer.
Nobody truly cares about you, so you can do whatever you want(as long as it’s not illegal).
Time moves fast, don’t waste your time too much or you will regret it in the future.
A hard worker usually beats a talented person(unless the talented person also works hard).
Working hard is not enough, also work smart and work consistently.
The hardest things to get in life are usually the most worth it.
如果你不尝试,你永远不会知道。
如果你不问,你永远不会得到答案。
没有人真正关心你,所以你可以做任何你想做的事(只要不违法)。
时间过得很快,不要浪费太多时间,否则你将来会后悔的。
努力工作的人通常会打败有才能的人(除非有才能的人也努力工作)。
努力工作是不够的,还要聪明地工作,始终如一地工作。
生活中最难得到的东西通常是最值得得到的。
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Self development is the key to happiness.
I'm not well endowed both physically and mentally. Though my health is outstanding. Unfortunately I developed bad mentality. I didn't concentrate in my life. My personality development was zero yet in my mind I want the best of best.
Since teenage I believe that I would get rich, intelligent, handsome and caring man. That would have happen if I was the only lady in whole world.
Change in attitude came with heavy price. I paid with heart break and shame. In my late twenties I met the man of my dreams. He had everything I want in man. Now the only problem is the guy was not interested in me. He was in love with a smart and well off lady.
That changed me. I realized if a guy had so many things I would never have he would surely dominate me. He won't respect and love me.
Now I even dislike people who have those qualities. I feel like they are all same. That they would look for their equals.
Most importantly I can develop in myself all the qualities I dream of in my dream lover.
自我发展是幸福的关键。
我的体育和智力天赋都不好。虽然我的健康状况很好。不幸的是,我的心态很差。我的生活无法集中精力。我几乎没啥人格魅力,但在我心中,我想要最好的最好的。
从十几岁起,我就相信我会找到一个富有、聪明、英俊、有爱心的人。如果我是世界上唯一的一位女士,这一切都会发生。
态度的改变带来了沉重的代价。我付出了心碎和羞愧的代价。在我二十几岁的时候,我遇到了我的梦中情人。他拥有我想要的一切。现在唯一的问题是那家伙对我不感兴趣。他爱上了一位聪明而富有的女士。
这改变了我。我意识到,如果一个人有那么多我永远不会拥有的东西,他肯定会主宰我。他不会尊重和爱我的。
现在我甚至不喜欢有这些品质的人。我觉得他们都一样。他们会寻找和他们条件差不多的人。
最重要的是,我可以在自己身上培养我梦寐以求的梦中情人的所有品质。
I am only 18 years old. I am beginning to understand the adult life slowly. This is what I have learnt till now.
Nobody gives a damn about you, except you. Maybe your parents love you unconditionally, but there are certain times they get to be selfish.
Sex and love aren't the only things in life. The world is vast. (Ever since I hit puberty my mantra was otherwise. Until recent events corrected me.)
The world doesn't revolve around you.
Respect others no matter what shit they do to you. End of the day they know only their side of the story. They will be blind to your side.
There is no undo button in life. I insulted a person whom I cared for a lot. Now there is no going back. She hates me for life.
Patience is important. Like I mentioned previously, there isn't an undo button in life.
Confidence is your sustenance. Under-confidence is your stupidity. But, over-confidence is your death.
我只有18岁。我开始慢慢了解成人生活。这是我至今所学的。
除了你,没人在乎你。也许你的父母无条件地爱你,但有时他们会变得自私。
性和爱不是生活中唯一的东西。世界是辽阔的(从我进入青春期起,我的口头禅就不是这样了。直到最近的事件纠正了我的错误。)
世界不是围绕着你转的。
尊重他人,不管他们对你做了什么。一天结束时,他们只知道自己的一面。他们会对你这边发生的事情视而不见。
生活中没有撤消按钮。我侮辱了一个我很在乎的人。现在已经没有回头路了。她恨我一辈子。
耐心很重要。就像我前面提到的,生活中没有撤消按钮。
自信是你的支柱。缺乏自信的你就是愚蠢。但是,过度自信是你的死亡之日。
Garvit Panwar,居住在印度北方邦加济阿巴德(2019年至今)
From my point of view doing mistake are the best way to learn.
People with great experiances have great learning in thier life.
The things which i have learn to late are-
Do mistakes and learn from them(Most important)
Having a dicipline life.
Keeping your mind busy as much you can.As more your mind is free more you will be lost.
Give respect and gain respect.
Think as big as you can.Since everthing is possible if you give a try.
Follow your desire or dream.
Stop being shy of anything (do whatever you want to do without thinking that what people will say if i do this)Maximum people fall here of thinking this.
Last and most important is sharing.Sharing is the best habbit to spread love whether the person is poor or rich.
犯错是优势还是劣势?
在我看来,犯错误是最好的学习方法。
经验丰富的人一生可以学到很多。
我学到的东西是:
犯错误并从中吸取教训(最重要)
有纪律的生活。
让你的大脑尽可能地忙碌。你的思想越自由,你就越会迷失。
给予尊重并获得尊重。
梦想越大越好。如果你试一试,一切皆有可能。
追随你的愿望或梦想。
不要羞于做任何事(做任何你想做的事,不要想如果我这样做,人们会说什么)大多数人都会这样想。
最后也是最重要的一点是分享。无论一个人是穷是富,分享是传播爱的最好习惯。
Some of the things that I’ve learned too late in life, or honestly just not early enough are that life’s always going to throw challenges at you. It’s going to try to break you. But that’s the thing. The entirety of life, it’s a make or break game. Either you make it through, or you break down in the middle. Always try to keep your motivation, and keep the ball rolling. Because no matter what happens after all the challenges, and hardships there’s something good waiting.
有些事情我了解得太晚了,或者说还不够早,那就是生活总是会给你带来挑战,它会试图击垮你,但问题就在这里。人生的全部,就是一场成败攸关的游戏。你要么撑过去,要么在中途崩溃。永远保持你的动力,让球滚动。因为在所有的挑战和困难之后无论发生什么,总会有好的事情在等着你。