为什么人们会在生活中失败(四)

Shawrya Mehrotra, Founder and CEO at Metvy. TEDx Speaker. 50x Keynote Speaker.
The journey towards success and victory in life is full of hurdles. These hurdles are nothing but failures that come along the path of your success. But it is important to cross these hurdles, failures, in order to achieve the ultimate goal which is success.
There is value in failure. Through failure, you will get to know yourself better and you will learn from your mistakes. Failures make us rethink, reconsider, and find new ways and strategies to achieve our goals. All these obstacles that challenge us to achieve our goals should be observed carefully and responsibly. Once, you act in a smarter and wiser way, the chance of these hurdles arising in the way of success eventually falls.
A lack of persistence is a great obstacle to success. There are so many incredibly talented and gifted people who fail time and time again because they rely too much on their talents. They are not willing to persist until they've completely mastered what they're doing. Instead, they quit when the going gets tough. Failures give you an opportunity to realize alternative ways to achieve your goals. We just need the right vision and a positive mindset. Failures are there to tell you that you have been following the wrong path and your strategy was flawed. Learning from failures is probably the best way to broaden your perspective.
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人生通往成功和胜利的道路充满了障碍。这些障碍只不过是你成功道路上的失败。但重要的是要跨越这些障碍和失败，以实现最终目标，即成功。
失败是有价值的。通过失败，你会更好地了解自己，并从错误中吸取教训。失败让我们重新思考，并找到新的方式和策略来实现我们的目标。所有这些挑战我们实现目标的障碍都应该被认真和负责任地加以观察。一旦你以一种更聪明、更明智的方式行事，这些障碍最终出现在成功道路上的可能性就会降低。
缺乏毅力是成功的一大障碍。有那么多才华横溢的人，他们一次又一次地失败，因为他们过于依赖自己的才能。他们不愿意坚持，直到他们完全掌握了他们正在做的事情。相反，当情况变得艰难时，他们会辞职。失败给了你一个实现目标的机会。我们只需要正确的愿景和积极的心态。失败会告诉你，你走错了路，你的策略也有缺陷。从失败中学习可能是拓宽视野的最佳方式。
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Julio Ortiz, Author
Doubt, you start listening to noise trying to correct defects that are not even there. Trust yourself, trust your training and understanding. You are at this crossroad because you belong to be. Believing that you are not good enough, looking for emergency mentoring from random sources because you doubt yourself. Don’t! You are ready, this is your decision, you path, you belong here. Own it. Even if you fail, show respect to your competitor, if you are meant to complete this task in the future you will be there again and hopefully you do not doubt yourself and come out victorious.

毫无疑问，你开始倾听噪音，试图纠正甚至不存在的缺陷。相信你自己，相信你的训练和理解。你处于这个十字路口，因为你属于这个地方。认为自己不够好，从随机来源寻求紧急指导，因为你怀疑自己。不！你准备好了，这是你的决定，你的道路，你属于这里。拥有它吧。即使你失败了，也要尊重你的竞争对手，如果你打算在未来完成这项任务，你会再次选择此路，希望你不会怀疑自己，并取得胜利。

Vera Stewart, The beauty that surrounds me, comes from within.
Each one of us are the biggest cause of our own failures and we are very good at justifying them. There are endless reasons which all begin and end within ourselves. Lack of confidence, fear of even trying, negative self talk, listening to the naysayers, focusing on why it won’t work instead of the steps required to accomplish the task at hand. The excuses are endless. But I would say the biggest reason for failure is easy. Succeeding at something takes effort, energy, time, patience, perseverance. If you love something, never give up, no matter what anyone says!!

我们每个人都是自己失败的最大原因，我们非常善于为失败辩护。有无穷无尽的原因，所有这些都是从我们自身开始和结束的。缺乏信心，甚至害怕尝试，消极的自言自语，倾听反对者的声音，专注于为什么它不起作用，而不是完成手头任务所需的步骤。借口无穷无尽。但我认为失败的最大原因很简单。成功需要努力、精力、时间、耐心和毅力。如果你爱一件事，无论别人怎么说，就永远不要放弃！

Samidha Paroha, I play with words!
Lack of Faith.
The story goes like this.
One day a businessman approached Swami Vivekanand and started lamenting in front of him, "I have lost everything I had, I am bankrupt. What do I do?"
Vivekanand replied calmly, "The only thing worse than losing everything you had is losing the will to gain it back. Loss of faith in yourself is the real loss."
Unwavering faith. That is the key ingredient to success. No one is failure-proof. It is an inevitable part of our lives. What matters is how we react to it.
My child, what I want is muscles of iron and nerves of steel, inside which dwells a mind of the same material as that of which the thunderbolt is made. - Swami Vivekanand

缺乏信心。故事是这样的。
一天，一位商人走近斯瓦米·维韦卡南德，在他面前开始哀叹：“我失去了我所有的一切，我破产了。我该怎么办？”
维维卡南德平静地回答说：“唯一比失去你所拥有的一切更糟糕的事情就是失去了夺回一切的意志。对自己失去信心才是真正的损失。”
坚定的信念。这是成功的关键因素。没有人是不会失败的。这是我们生活中不可避免的一部分。重要的是我们如何应对。
我的孩子，我想要的是钢铁般的肌肉和钢铁般的神经，在它们的内部居住着一个与制造雷电的材料相同的头脑。-斯瓦米·维韦卡南德

Keinosuke Johan Miyanaga / 宮永 ヨハン 計之介, the truth is what is meant to be true.
We draw lines in the sand we promise not to cross. Then we cross them one by one. Failure is imposed by the circumstances we create, proceeded by their enforcement and our participation. They are illusions with consequences. We are the inventors and advocates of failure.
Failure is enacted when we hear the word, when we use it, and when we believe in its existence. But every failure can be traced to a line in the sand, and every line can be traced to the person or persons who drew it. Find that person and ask them this.
"How am I a failure? "
"The line. You crossed it. "
"Why am I a failure?"
"Because you believe in that line. Because that line is real."
"How did you draw this line?"
"With this very real stick."
"Why did you draw this line?"
"So to label people like you a failure."
We fail because we trust the definitions of others. But these definitions are created for a purpose, often designed to discriminate, to exclude, and to make people pay. If your fate rests on the lines of others, you need to choose your lines more carefully and take greater control of your circumstances. Realize that these circumstances are designed to take greater control of you.

我们在沙滩上划了条线，承诺不会越过。然后我们一个一个地跨过它们。失败是由我们创造的环境、执行和参与造成的。它们是带有后果的幻觉。我们是失败的发明者和倡导者。
当我们听到这个词，当我们使用它，当我们相信它的存在时，失败就开始了。但每一次失败都可以追溯到沙子上的一条线，每一条线都可以追溯到画它的人。找到那个人，问他们这个问题。
“我怎么会是个失败者？”
“你越过了底线。”
“为什么我是个失败者？”
“因为你相信那句台词。因为那句台词是真实的。”
“你是怎么画这条线的？”
“用这根真实的棍子。”
“你为什么画这条线？”
“所以给你这样的人贴上失败的标签。”
我们失败是因为我们相信别人的定义。但这些定义是为了一个目的而产生的，通常是为了歧视、排斥和让人们付出代价。如果你的命运取决于他人，你需要更仔细地选择自己的路线，并更好地控制自己的处境。意识到这些环境是为了更好地控制你。

Failure is a game the strong force on the weak, the powerful on the powerless, the rich on the poor, adults on children. We place hurdles just to make people jump, and jump they do.
Failure is not the same as a mistake or an error, because these are unintentional. Failure entails judgement. Judgement entails the intentions of judges. Those without authority that enforce their lines are either elitist or utilitarian, but harmless nevertheless. We are above these lines because we can all erase and redraw them, with good or bad intentions, however and whenever we want.
Those that possess real authority, be it by law or power, are the only real threat. Their lines are as abstract and ambiguous as any other, yet can physically harm us. They will claim the lines give them power as they fine us, jail us, or even lethally inject us. Their lines give them the power to declare war and kill us. Yet it takes people to do these things. And when they happen, they happen because of those that intend harm. Lines don't hurt people. Only people hurt people. Intentionally. When we change our minds, we change our lines. The definition of torture being a recent example.

失败是强者对弱者、有权力的人对无权力的人、富人对穷人、成年人对儿童的游戏。而计程员压在汽车上。我们设置障碍只是为了让玩家跳起来，他们真的跳起来了。
失败和错误不一样，因为错误都是无意的。失败需要判断。判断包含着判断者的意图。那些没有权力来执行自己的路线的人要么是精英主义者，要么是功利主义者，但无论如何都是无害的。我们之所以超越这些界限，是因为我们都可以抹去和重画它们，无论是出于好意还是恶意，无论何时何地，只要我们愿意。
那些拥有真正权威的人，无论是法律还是权力，都是唯一且真正的威胁。就像任何抽象的线条都会伤害我们一样。他们会声称这些线给了他们权力，因为他们会对我们罚款，监禁我们，甚至剥夺生命我们。他们的防线赋予他们宣战和杀害我们的权力。然而，这需要人们去做这些事情。当它们发生时，它们发生是因为那些有意伤害的人。划定的线不会伤害人。只有人会伤害人。当我们改变主意时，我们就改变了路线。酷刑的定义是最近的一个例子。

Being a matter of intent, what ultimately matters most are the underlying intentions and the people that own them. If someone paints you a failure, shame on them. If you paint someone a failure, shame on you. Bad intentions are criminal. With good intentions, failure is never a person, but an act, and can even be made to bring us salvation. We would encourage each other not to fail, make it a good excuse to help, and create an opportunity of kindness and forgiveness. Failure can be humbling.
Of course, the flip side of failure is success, which we are told can only be obtained by overcoming failure. We hate failure. We love success. Yet, oddly enough, we would still be left with the fruits of our labor without either. Success is as superficial as failure. It's all just paint. Maybe eventually we'll have the courage to rid ourselves of such silly labels altogether.

出于意图问题，最终最重要的是潜在的意图和拥有这些意图的人。如果有人把你描绘成一个失败者，为他们感到羞耻。如果你把某人描绘成一个失败者，那是你的耻辱，恶意就是犯罪。怀着良好的意愿，失败永远不是一个人，而是一种行为，甚至可以用来拯救我们。我们会鼓励彼此不要失败，让它成为帮助别人的好借口，并创造一个友善和宽恕的机会。失败会令人谦卑。
当然，失败的另一面是成功，我们被告知只有克服失败才能获得成功。我们讨厌失败。我们热爱成功。然而，奇怪的是，如果没有这两者，我们仍然会得到我们的劳动成果。成功和失败一样肤浅。都是被贴的标签。也许最终我们会有勇气彻底摆脱这些愚蠢的标签。

Aman Gupta, studied at Thapar Institute of Engineering and Technology
Because they tried : If they have not tried it then there is no question of failing
Because they learned : If they have tried it then they have surely learned something from it.
Because they will give better next time : If they have learned something from it then that learning will surely help them in performing better than before.
“Winning is not always punctual but eventually it comes.”

因为他们尝试过：如果他们没有尝试过，那么就没有失败的问题
因为他们学到了：如果他们尝试过，那么他们肯定从中学到了一些东西。
因为他们下次会付出更多：如果他们从中学到了一些东西，那么这种学习肯定会帮助他们表现得比以前更好。
“胜利并不总是准时的，但最终会到来。”

Majeed Baniyan, Know about God, religion and behaviors.
Many people remain failed in their life because they desire to do a lot, they think a lot but they never make planning of things and they don't set smart goals. They think of highest aims and higher goals but do not work hard and make proper planning in this regard. To achieve good in life it is necessary to:
first of all have a real vision and according to vision setting up smart goals and then to make a planning and have a strategy to achieve goals.

许多人在生活中仍然失败，因为他们渴望做很多事情，他们想了很多事情，但他们从不做计划，也没有设定明智的目标。他们有最高的目标和更高的目标，但不为此付出努力，也不做适当的规划。为了在生活中获得美好，有必要：
首先要有一个真正的愿景，并根据愿景聪明地设定目标，然后制定计划和战略，以实现目标。

Jovan Skorupovi
I once met a guy who was going on collage but didn’t like what he was doing. He knew that and I told him; “Learning what you love and are passionate about is important.”, you wouldn’t be surprised what he answered; “So what, most people do the job that they don’t like.”. I tried to convince him otherwise, he was a smart and decent guy with a hard-working father.
Months flew by and we haven’t heard from each other, he called me if I want to grab some coffee. We grabbed a coffee and took a short walk, I had 7 tests that week. The first thing I asked was, of course, what happened to his education. He told me, with a smile on his face, how he’s going for forensics, how he enjoyed doing it.
Generally he saved himself, doing what you get in life is something terrible yet most people do the same boring job for their whole life. Pause a year if you want, don't go for something that you don’t like, 60 more years of doing boring crap is not good.

我曾经遇到过一个人，他正在上大学，但他不喜欢自己所学的内容。他认清后我告诉他；“学习你热爱和热爱的东西很重要。”，他的回答不会让你感到惊讶；“那又怎样，大多数人做他们不喜欢的工作。”我试图说服他，他是一个聪明守规矩的人，有一个勤劳的父亲。
几个月过去了，我们一直没有互通消息，如果我想喝咖啡，他打电话给我问是否想和咖啡，我们喝了杯咖啡，散了一会儿步，那周我做了7次测试。当然，我问的第一件事是他的教育情况。他面带微笑地告诉我，他要去做鉴证，他很享受这个过程。
一般来说，他救了自己，在生活中做愿意做事情，然而可怕的是大多数人一生都在做重复且无聊的工作。如果你想改变，那么暂停一年，不要去做你不喜欢的事情，如果那样再做60年无聊的垃圾工作也是没用的。

Doug Whitman, I have studied philosophy for many years.
The first thing you need to do is to choose your definition of success. Success is defined in western civilizations as the possession of money and power. There are many different definitions.
There are certainly many possible causes of underachievement. However one other possibility exists. Maybe they have a different definition of success than most people. If they serve God by meditating often, and believe this helps the world, they may believe they are very successful.

你需要做的第一件事是选择你对成功的定义。在西方文明中，成功被定义为拥有金钱和权力。对此有许多不同的定义。
成绩不佳的原因当然有很多。然而，还有一种可能性。也许他们对成功的定义与大多数人不同。如果他们通过经常冥想来事奉上帝，并相信这有助于世界，他们可能借此会认为自己非常成功。

Rich Thomas
Some people come from a bad environment where they didn’t get much chance to do what was needed. I know a guy who’s dad tried to kill him when was 7 and his mom was drug addict who wasn’t around much. clearly he had no real role models to look up to. The predictable result is he was unable to focus in school and he became a trouble maker who spent time in juvenile. he somehow finished high school but couldn’t get in college and had no way to pay for it even if he did. he’s been working min wage jobs and barely scraping by. He’s also a drug addict and a burnout. product of environment no doubt.

有些人来自一个恶劣的环境，他们没有太多机会去做需要做的事情。我认识一个人，他父亲7岁时试图杀了他，而他母亲是个瘾君子，周围人也不多。显然，他没有值得尊敬的真正榜样。可预见的结果是，他在学校无法集中注意力，他成了一个在少管所待过的麻烦制造者。他莫名其妙地完成了高中学业，但上不了大学，即使上了大学也没办法支付学费。他一直在做低薪工作，勉强度日。他也是个瘾君子，精力枯竭。无疑是环境的产物。

Ria Jha, Motivational blogger
Hey! Friend. I would be really happy if we all replace the word failure. When we try hard to succeed and fail to achieve our goal we call it failure and we think it to be the end. But let me tell you, failure is just like a slippery surface. We have to be smart, active, fast, competitive and calculative to overcome this word failure.
Failure turns out to be success if we learn from it. Failure is the stepping stone to success. No one is perfect. Without failure, how will you find your mistake. How will you hone your skills? It's not possible. So, ups and downs are kind of necessary.
Even I have faced a hundred of situations which ripped my heart. But I can only say from my experience , I just found that there were more number of ways which I left untried. And then, your vision becomes clear and you get the confidence to persevere.
Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that count. No doubt success allows us to celebrate but the lessons of growth come from failure.
Every adversity, every heartache, every failure carries with it the seed of equal and greater benefit.
We speak about success all the time, but it is the failure the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. When we give ourselves the permission to fail, we automatically give ourselves the permission to excel.
Have a great time.

嘿朋友如果我们都把失败这个词用别的词给替换掉，我会非常高兴。当我们努力取得成功，但未能实现目标时，我们称之为失败，我们认为这就是终点。但让我告诉你，失败就像光滑的表面。我们必须聪明、积极、快速、有竞争力和有计算能力来克服失败这个词。
如果我们从失败中吸取教训，失败就是成功。失败是成功的垫脚石。没有人是完美的。如果没有失败，你将如何发现自己的错误。你将如何磨练你的技能？这是不可能的。所以，起起伏伏是必要的。
就连我也面对过上百种让我心碎的情况。但我只能说，根据我的经验，我只是发现有更多的方法我没有尝试过。然后，你的愿景变得清晰，你有信心坚持下去。
成功不是终点。失败不是致命的。这是继续下去的勇气。毫无疑问，成功让我们庆祝，但成长的教训来自于失败。
每一次逆境、每一次心痛、每一次失败都孕育着平等和更大利益的种子。
我们一直在谈论成功，但正是失败——抵抗失败或利用失败的能力——往往会带来更大的成功。当我们允许自己失败时，我们就会自动地允许自己出类拔萃。
祝你玩得愉快。

Anshuman Kumar, Delivery Manager at Fluper
I am alone at home with my younger cousin sister, she is in her teenage. In this warm summer, she orders me that she want to drink something cool. [Yes she ordered me:)]
As there is no other at the home, so I asked her “Do you want to drink child lemonade?” She happily agreed.
But I give a task to mixed the sugar in water. I give her a container and Sugar box and tell her to take only 4 Spoon sugar.
She mixed the sugar and last I add lemon juice in it.
When I take a sip of the drink, it tastes sweeter than honey. She mixed 8+ spoon sugar.

我独自一人在家和我的表妹在一起，她十几岁。在这个温暖的夏天，她命令我她想喝点凉快的东西。[是的，她命令我：）]
因为家里没有其他人，所以我问她“你想喝儿童柠檬水吗？”她高兴地同意了。
但我给了一个任务，在水中混合糖。我给她一个容器和糖盒，告诉她只拿4勺糖。
她混合了糖，最后我加了柠檬汁。
我喝了一口这种饮料，尝起来比蜂蜜还甜。她混合了8+勺糖。

We have two option to correct our mistake-
Take out sugar from that.
Mixed some more water and lemon juice.
For our every problem there are two solutions, This is impossible to take out dilute sugar from that liquid, but this is easy to add some water to correct the mistake. Even adding some water made more lemonade which I can utilize further.
Why do people fail in life?
Because when people do some mistake they choose a harder way to solve the problem and give up. This is the reason why of failure.
Doing mistake is better than not doing anything but we have analyzed the different solution of a problem to get rid of that mistake easily.

我们有两种选择来纠正我们的错误-
把糖从里面拿出来。
再混合一些水和柠檬汁。
对于我们的每个问题都有两种解决方案，从液体中取出溶解掉的糖是不可能的，但很容易通过添加一些水来纠正错误。甚至加入一些水，我也可以进一步利用柠檬水。
为什么人们会在生活中失败？
因为当人们犯错时，他们会选择更难的方法来解决问题，然后放弃。这就是失败的原因。
犯错误总比什么都不做要好，但我们分析了问题的不同解决方案，以便轻松地消除错误。

Sristy Verma
There must be a point in everyone's life where you want to be successful so ,you start listing out those things which are necessary for your success like for students: studying, wake up early in morning, exercise, avoid bad habits like using phones, excess sleeping, smoking, drinking etc.
The day we get the motivation we start following it for the next few days. But after a week or days we start moving out of track from schedule just by thinking JUST THIS TIME . I will follow the schedule again from the next day. But again,
By thinking just this time and once will be enough. We go out of made schedule.
Next day: Just this time
Next day: Just this time
It goes on next three to four days..
These become lies.
Then we become hopeless,worthless. We think I will never be able to control myself.
And that is why most people fail.

在每个人的生活中都有一个时刻，你想要成功，所以，你开始列出要成功所必需的东西，比如对学生来说：学习、早起、锻炼、避免使用手机、过度睡眠、吸烟、饮酒等坏习惯。
从我们获得动力的那一天起，我们就开始在接下来的几天里关注它。但一周或几天后，我们就开始偏离计划，只想着这一次放弃。从第二天开始将再次按照计划行事。但再一次，只想这一次就够了，于是我们超出了预定的时间。
第二天：就这一次
第二天：就这一次
接下来的三到四天。
这些都成了谎言。
然后我们变得绝望。我们认为我永远无法控制自己。
这就是大多数人失败的原因。

Because once people set a goal or promise about something to self and unable to fulfil it because of those above lies. They take this failure for granted and then they do not try it.
So how to overcome from this:.
Once you set goal or schedule follow it. Control yourself, if you are thinking once breaking of your rules for a day will not do a great difference,avoid such opinions. If you unfollowed your schedule for a single day, so here you will mess it everything.
If you anyhow(unfortunately) get out of track for a single day, then do not continue it for the next days.
Never quit trying
Remember :

因为一旦人们为自己设定了目标或承诺，却因为上述谎言而无法实现。他们认为这种失败是理所当然的，然后他们不去尝试。
那么，如何克服这个问题呢。
一旦你设定了目标或时间表，就要遵循它。控制自己，如果你认为一天内违反规则不会有太大的影响，那么就避免这样的观点。如果你只完成了一天的日程安排，那么你会把一切都搞砸。
如果你（不幸地）在某天偏离了正轨，那么在接下来的几天里就不要继续偏离它。
永远不要放弃尝试
记得：

No man is a loser until he quits trying.
We can take examples of Bill Gates,, Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, Henry Ford… and many more in list.
These people are successful inspite of number of times they faced failures. Why? Because they failed but they never quit trying..
Good luck…

只要不放弃尝试，就不是失败者。
我们可以举比尔·盖茨、亚伯拉罕·林肯、阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦、史蒂夫·乔布斯、亨利·福特等许多例子。
这些人是成功的，尽管他们面临许多次失败。为什么成功?因为他们失败过，但他们从不放弃尝试。
祝你好运。

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There are a few conditions for a failure
1)the lack of trying/fear or trying
This is a complicated thing as it often stems from one's own lack of belief in their own abilities, learned helplessness but also old, plain laziness and a victim attitude (that attitude though is often because of either toxic people in our environment that try to tell us that we are victims or the fear of trying that manifests in ourselves lying to ourselves that we are a victim)
2)inability to learn from one's mistakes
Sometimes failure in some small part is a very very important part of learning and a small failure prevents the big failure. Basically one needs to allow themselves to fail in a small way to succeed or not fail more spectacularly
3)Sometimes it is just plain bad luck
No, really, sometimes it's just bad luck, bad coincidence and simply ad timing. Happens to the best of us.
4)self sabotage
Different from the lack of trying because this is very directly tied to lying to ourselves: lying to ourselves about what we want on a very basic level and trying to achieve goals that aren't really our own.

失败有几个条件
缺乏尝试/恐惧或不去尝试
这是一件复杂的事情，因为它往往源于一个人对自己的能力缺乏信心、后天习得的无助感，但也源于年老、单纯的懒惰和一种受害者态度（尽管这种态度通常是因为我们环境中有毒的人试图告诉我们自己是受害者，或者是因为我们对自己撒谎说自己是受害者而表现出不敢尝试。
不能从错误中吸取教训
有时，小部分的失败是学习中非常重要的一部分，小的失败可以防止大的失败。基本上，一个人需要允许自己以一种小的方式失败，才能更引人注目地成功或不再失败。
有时这纯粹是运气不好
不，真的，有时候只是运气不好，糟糕的巧合和简单的广告时机，我们都有过这样的经历。
自我糟践
与缺乏尝试不同，这直接与欺骗我们自己有关:在最基本的层面上欺骗我们自己想要什么，试图实现不属于我们自己的目标。