我怎样才能更好地控制情绪？
How do I become better at controlling emotions?
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所有的情绪都是完全正常的。愤怒、悲伤、快乐、嫉妒、怨恨都是正常的情绪，它们都具有进化的重要性，可以维持个体的生存。所以你无法真正控制他们。但是你可以学会识别你的情绪。例如，愤怒可能是由嫉妒、苛求、背叛、针对非愤怒起因的其他人的愤怒引发的。搞明白情绪的起因，是教育自己的关键，这通常意味着需要对自己诚实。
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How do I become better at controlling emotions?
我怎样才能更好地控制情绪？
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Meditation and breath work is a great way to learn to accept and control your emotions. By first accepting what you're feeling, sadness, anger, jealousy or fear, you can then know the best way to manage and control those feelings. If you are feeling sad seek out things in your life you're grateful for, appreciate the little moments that bring you joy and shift your focus to those things. If feeling angry take a deep breath and try to slow down allow yourself to calm down so you don't act irrationally. Jealousy and fear, cause us to question or doubt others or ourselves, Journaling can help process these emotions while allowing us to process our feelings.
冥想和呼吸是学习接受和控制情绪的好方法。首先接受你的感受，悲伤、愤怒、嫉妒或恐惧，然后，你就能知道管理和控制这些感受的最佳方法。如果你感到悲伤，在你的生活中寻找你感激的事情，欣赏那些带给你快乐的小时刻，并将你的注意力转移到那些事情上。如果感到愤怒，深呼吸，放慢节奏，让自己冷静下来，这样你就不会做出不合理的行为。嫉妒和恐惧会让我们质疑或怀疑他人或自己，写日记可以帮助我们在处理自己信念的同时处理好这些情绪。
"One can promise actions, but not feelings, for the latter are involuntary. He who promises to love forever or hate forever or be forever faithful to someone is promising something that is not in his power." - Friedrich Nietzsche
Emotion is a feeling such as happiness, love, fear, anger, or hatred, which can be caused by the situation you are in or the people you are with. It is formed with experience and stored in the form of memory. We may remember some emotions at the conscious level, while others are buried deeper, undetected by us. It says we are creatures of emotions. Emotions have negative and positive emotions. Negative emotions are sudden, so they sometimes make things wrong, cross the line, and eventually commit things that they will regret. Then, should negative emotions be suppressed or eliminated?
I don't think I took good care of the negative emotions in my life. I had a compulsive obsession with being happy. I thought I shouldn't be sad, but only delighted things should happen. I didn't want to express my pain in front of others, and I thought the sad person was a loser. I always wanted to be seen as a bubbly and bright person and tried to suppress and deny negative emotions. These attempts appeared as depression, anger, and feeling void over time. It took me a long time to realize that negative emotions were part of my life that should not be ignored.
“一个人可以承诺行动，但不能承诺感情，因为后者是不自觉的。承诺永远爱、永远恨或永远忠诚于某人的人，是在承诺一些不在他能力范围内的事情。”弗里德里希·尼采
情绪是一种感觉，如幸福、爱、恐惧、愤怒或仇恨，可能是由你所处的环境或与你在一起的人引起的。它由经验形成，并以记忆的形式储存。我们可能会在意识层面上记住一些情绪，而其他情绪则被埋藏得很深，不被我们所察觉。情绪是情感的产物。情绪有消极情绪和积极情绪。负面情绪总是突然出现的，所以人们有时会犯错，越过界限，最终做出会让他们后悔的事情。那么，负面情绪应该被抑制或者消除吗？
我认为我没有很好地处理生活中的负面情绪。我对快乐有一种强迫性的执念。我想我不应该难过，但只有高兴的事情会让人快乐。我不想在别人面前表达我的痛苦，我认为那个悲伤的人是个失败者。我一直想被人视为一个活泼开朗的人，并试图抑制和否认消极情绪。随着时间的推移，这些尝试表现为抑郁、愤怒和空虚。我花了很长时间才意识到负面情绪是我生活中不可忽视的一部分。
We want to control our emotions well. How can we live by controlling our emotions well?
ㅇ First of all, we have to look closely at my negative emotions. You have to face it. Don't sweep it under the rug. Imagine putting it in a cup and covering it with a cloth. Pull them out under the sun. If not, it will get rotten and smell bad. If we try to hold onto them, we cannot move forward.
ㅇAccept negative emotions as they are no matter what was inside me. We need to embrace negative emotions as a part of my life. It is how we grow into maturity.
o We need to give me enough time to mourn it. And then, let go of everything. You will be free.
我最喜欢的一部动画片《由内而外》用五种颜色表达了复杂的人类情感：喜悦、悲伤、愤怒、厌恶和恐惧。莱利是一个快乐的11岁女孩，但当她和家人搬到旧金山时，她的生活发生了翻天覆地的变化。乔伊掌握着莱利情绪的控制面板。乔伊认为莱利应该一直是快乐的。如果不是这样的话，就有问题了。所以，她认为控制面板需要修复。对她来说，悲伤是一个需要解决的问题。因此，乔伊试图抑制和控制各种突然出现的悲伤。乔伊画了一个圆圈，告诉悲伤待在那里别动：“保持安静，不要做任何事。”
我看到自己痴迷于幸福，就像乔伊忙着让莱利开心那样，将负面情绪关起来。
我们想要控制好自己的情绪。我们如何通过控制好自己的情绪来生活？
首先，我们必须密切关注我的负面情绪。你必须面对它。不要把它藏在地毯下面。想象一下，把它放在杯子里，然后用一块布盖住。你要把它们放在阳光下。否则，它们会腐烂，发出难闻的气味。如果我们紧紧抓住它们不放，我们就无法前进。
接受负面情绪，不管我内心的负面情绪是什么。我们需要把消极情绪作为生活的一部分。这是我们成长成熟的方式。
我们需要足够的时间来哀悼它。然后，再放下它。你就会得到自由。
Meditation allowed me to get rid of the garbage of old emotions and shine a light on me. The meditation contains all these processes. Negative emotions come up together when I look back on life through meditation. I face a negative image of myself that has been left unattended for a long time and smells bad. I acknowledge the negative self that I don't want to admit and let it away. Allow me time to leave the negative past repeating this process. This process is such a beautiful healing time. After repeatedly emptying in this way, I am free from negative emotions, and my consciousness gets healed. I feel like I am reborn as a more mature human being. Whether I open my eyes or close my eyes, the peace of my heart is deep and silent and profound. I am full of clear and bright energy inside. Regardless of the situation, I do not let emotions control me. So, I can manage my feelings naturally. That is how I come to control my emotion better.
在电影的最后一个场景中，控制面板变成了灰色，它再也起不了作用，悲伤是突破问题的关键。莱利回家后，过去记忆中的悲伤升华为正能量。痛苦和悲伤时期的快乐回忆被标记为蓝色。悲伤升华的喜悦使人更加成熟。
冥想让我摆脱了旧情绪中的垃圾，照亮了我。冥想包含了所有这些过程。当我通过冥想回顾生活时，负面情绪会聚集在一起。我面对的是一个长期无人看管、气味难闻的负面形象。我承认了我不想承认的消极的自我，并让它消失。请允许我留点时间，重温让消极的过去。这个过程是如此美丽的愈合时间。在以这种方式反复清空情绪之后，我从负面情绪中解脱出来，我的意识得到了治愈。我觉得我重生成了一个更成熟的人。无论我睁开眼睛还是闭上眼睛，我内心的平静是深沉的、沉默的、深刻的。我内心充满了清澈明亮的能量。不管情况如何，我都不会让情绪控制我。所以，我可以自然地控制自己的情绪。这就是我如何更好地控制自己的情绪的方法。
Human emotions! A psychological part of human behaviour is widely recognised but still requires a deep level of understanding to acknowledge its deep roots.
We all have different levels of emotions and we're quite different from every human being around us to compare the level of emotional well-being. Not every emotion we feel or going to feel is understood by us so it's quite impossible for others to understand us. But quite often we listen to complaints of people being not understood by others specifically about their emotions. But no one in this world was born to take responsibility to understand others' emotions when they also struggle to understand their own emotions. Imagining a world where every person understands their own emotions and is also willing to understand others may seem unimaginable. It probably is!! I Believe!!
The way we get damaged or hurt is when we learn a lesson where someone has betrayed our trust or humiliated us by questioning our ability to achieve something in life. This sort of experience might not be the easiest to get over when we're young. It directs us towards own anxiety we've developed because of such painful experiences. It stays in our heads unprocessed and we May not be able to recognise how we have such insecurity or fear. We can not always rely on people around us. Because the only person we're going to see every single morning is ourselves when we wake up in the morning and look in the mirror.
人类的情感！人类行为的心理部分已被广泛认可，但仍需要深刻的理解才能认识其深层根源。
我们每个人都有不同的情绪水平，我们与周围的每个人在情绪健康上有很大的不同。并不是我们感受到或将要感受到的每一种情绪都能被人们所理解，所以其他人很难理解我们。所以我们经常会听到人们抱怨别人不理解他们的情绪。但在这个世界上，没有人生来就有责任去理解别人的情绪，而且他们也在努力理解自己的情绪。想象一个每个人都能理解自己的情绪，同时也愿意理解他人的世界似乎是不可想象的。这基本不可能！！我确信！！
我们受到的伤害是，有人背叛了我们的信任，或通过质疑我们在生活中取得成就的能力而羞辱我们。在我们年轻的时候，这种经历可能不容易克服。它引导我们走向痛苦产生焦虑。它就这样未经处理的留在我们的脑子中，我们可能无法意识到我们是怎么拥有这种不安全感或恐惧的。我们不能总是依赖周围的人。因为我们每天早上醒来照镜子时，唯一能看到的人是我们自己。
You can not simply control your emotions in every situation. But you can always control who you're going to make suffer because of your emotions. Suppression of emotions is the way people find it convenient to control their emotions but it often takes place during a traumatic experience. Emotions need to be communicated in a good manner so that others don't get hurt. And that's the good way I believe to control your emotions. I always prefer to use a journal at the end of the day to get rid of unwanted emotions. So I don't hurt people unknowingly. Because relationships are fragile. Once trust is gone it's gone forever!!
伤害的经历就在我们内心深处，可能不会浮出水面，直到有人说了一些话，让我们在过去受到的伤害浮出水面，触发了我们。这种经历难以克服，因为它们是未经加工的，而且我们已经把它们隐藏了很长一段时间。因为我们根本不知道该怎么处理它们，也不知道该如何纠正它们。缺乏对自己情绪的了解让我们痛苦，有时我们会让那些与我们自己的情绪无关但爱我们的人受苦。我们会让他们远离我们，因为我们经常让他们觉得爱我们是不值得的。
你不能在任何情况下都简单地控制自己的情绪。但是你总是可以控制不要让别人因为你的情绪受苦。抑制情绪是人们发现的控制情绪最方便的方式，但它通常会导致创伤经历。情感需要良好的沟通，这样别人就不会受到伤害。我相信这是控制情绪的好方法。我总是喜欢在一天结束时用日记来消除不必要的情绪。所以我不会在不知不觉中伤害别人。因为关系是脆弱的。一旦信任消失，它将永远消失！！
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In my opinion it is best to surrender control and simply observe my emotions. Each emotion, especially negative emotions, is trying to communicate or teach me something. So, when I observe it free from judgment I am open to understanding why I feel that way.
Simply allow each emotion to flow freely through you. Do not try to block out negative emotions or shove them down. When we do this we trap that negative energy in the body. Eventually it builds and festers and finally at some point it will erupt like a volcano.
When you are feeling a heightened state of emotion, especially negative emotions, try to pause and take deep slow breaths. This will lower your blood pressure and heart rate and remove you from the fight or flight state where thoughts become distorted.
Next, look around and find three obxts you can see, two obxts you can hear, and one you can smell. This will bring you back into present moment awareness.
To recap: Do not allow your emotions to control you. Do allow yourself to feel to heal and allow each emotion to flow through you. Connect your body and mind through your breath. Practice self-care. Know how to self-soothe when you are in a negative state of mind.
Ways to self soothe: listen to relaxing music, talk to a friend or therapist, go for a walk, practice breathing, do yoga, meditate, take a bubble bath, read, listen to a pod cast, practice aromatherapy, use healing crystals… learn what works for you to bring you back to a state of contentment.
在我看来，最好是放弃控制，只是观察我的情绪。每一种情绪，尤其是消极情绪，都在试图与我沟通或教我一些东西。所以，当我不加评判地观察它时，我就能理解为什么我会有这种感觉。
只需让每一种情绪在你身上自由流动。不要试图屏蔽消极情绪，或者把它们压下去。当我们这样做的时候，我们会将负能量困在体内。最终它会溃烂，然后在某个时刻它会像火山一样喷发。
当你感到情绪高涨，尤其是消极情绪高涨时，试着停下来，深呼吸。这会降低你的血压和心率，让你从与扭曲思想争斗或逃跑的状态中解脱出来。
接下来，环顾四周，找到三个你能看到的物体，两个你能听到的声音，还有一个你能闻到的气味。这会让你的意识回到当下。
总结一下：不要让你的情绪控制你。一定要让自己感受到治愈，让每一种情绪都在你体内流动。通过呼吸连接你的身体和思想。练习自我照顾。当你处于消极心态时，知道如何自我安慰。
自我安慰的方法：听放松的音乐，和朋友或治疗师交谈，散步，练习呼吸，做瑜伽，冥想，泡泡浴，阅读，听播客，练习芳香疗法，使用治疗晶体……学习什么对你有效，让你回到满意的状态。
Be more aware of your thoughts. Your perceptions, your feelings, your opinions are changing constantly, coming and going, coming and going.
Your emotions arise and pass…just like everything in this world does….and everyone in this world does.
Meditate.. be conscious of your breathing. Focus on you, not others.
多注意你的想法。你的感知，你的感觉，你的观点在不断变化，来来回回，来来回回。
你的情绪会产生和传递……就像这个世界上的所有东西一样……这个世界上的每个人都是这样。
冥想……注意你的呼吸。关注你自己，而不是别人。
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Being polite is so rare these days that it’s often confused with flirting. Check your emotions at the door,
It’s refreshing to have someone who brings you nothing but love & positivity,
Your life is actually lived in the present moment. You keep waiting for that incredible thing to happen in the future that’ll be the key to your happiness. Enjoy the journey, it’s often better than the result was thought to be,
Trying to be liked by everybody will make you say & do things you don’t really resonate with. Good character lies in being yourself,
Most fear is an illusion. Most of us fear the worst things will happen to us . Reality isn’t as painful as we make it out to be,
Loneliness is not cured by human company. It’s cured by contact with reality,
Catching feelings over someone else’s comment is not going to serve your life better . Accept all criticism as constructive, or understand it’s their insecurities placed onto you,
Pain is just an indicator that change is needed. Make those changes today, to have a better tomorrow,
Instead of always wanting, be grateful for what you’ve. Gratitude fosters positivity & well being,
A simpler life in all regards gives you more space for joy
Just Chill.!!
1、如今，礼貌是如此罕见，以至于人们常常把它与打情骂俏混为一谈。在出门前检查你的情绪。
2、如果有一个人给你带来的只有爱和积极情绪，那可真是让人欣喜。
3、你的实际生活总是在当下发生，而你一直在等待的不可思议的未来只会在未来发生，这两者都是你幸福的关键，享受这段旅程，它通常比人们想象的要好。
4、想要被所有人喜欢，你就需要做一些你并不认同的事情。最好的品格是做你自己。
5、大多数恐惧都是幻觉。我们大多数人都害怕最糟糕的事情会发生在我们身上。现实并不像我们想象的那么痛苦。
6、孤独不是靠人来治愈的。它可以通过与现实的接触来治愈。
7、在别人的评论中捕捉感受并不能更好地服务于你的生活。接受所有有建设性的批评，或者理解他们对你的不信任。
8、痛苦只是需要改变的一个指标。今天就做出改变，让明天更美好。
9、与其总是想着没有的，不如对你所拥有的心存感激。感恩能培养积极性和幸福感.
10、简单的生活会给你更多的快乐空间。
11、保持冷静！！
When I am sad or happy or excited, I say that’s what I am.
Like this:
“I am sad”. “I am happy”. “I am excited”.
But the fact is, I am not sad. I am me, and sad is just passing through.
I don’t think it’s possible to “control” my emotions, in particular because when I try to exert control over something I am giving it my full attention, which tends to make it bigger and stronger.
It’s hard to conquer anything if the strength and grit it’s using to overpower me is the one that I keep giving it.
What helps is to not identify with my emotions. To learn to make a distinction between what I feel and me.
As I separate who I am from what I feel, I start to become a witness to my feelings, instead of getting all tangled up in them. I recognize them as something powerful but transitory.
This makes it more plausible for feelings to move through me.
Hello, anger. You rock me to my core, but long after you sweep through me I will still be here.
I am going to outlast you, because you are not who I am.
当我悲伤、快乐或兴奋时，我会说这一切都是我。
像这样：
“我很难过”； “我很高兴”；“我很兴奋” 。
但事实是，我并不难过。我还是我，悲伤只是路过。
我认为不可能“控制”我的情绪，因为当我试图控制某件事时，我会把注意力全部放在这件事情上，这往往会使它变得更加强大。
如果它用来压倒我的力量和毅力是我给予它的，那么我就无法征服它。
帮助我的办法是：不要认同我的情绪。学会区分我的感受和我自己。
当我把我自己和我的感受分开时，我成为了我感受的见证人，而不是和感受纠缠在一起。我认为它们是强大的，但是它们很短暂。
这让我更容易感受到情绪。
你好，愤怒。你震撼了我的心，但在你横扫我全身之后，你会离开，而我仍在这里。
我会比你活得更久，因为你不是我。
I think the way to manage (not control) your emotions is to keep a close watch on them as though they were the steering wheel, and you’re the car, and life is the road
Step 1: Be aware of what you feel at any given moment; just this one step will put you ahead of the game.
Step 2: Be mindful of your triggers and work through them very gradually as you expand your window of emotional tolerance.
Step 3: Be consistent, practice all the time and put yourself into it fully; emotional management is just another skill, and it develops as such.
我认为管理（而不是控制）你的情绪的方法是密切关注它们，就好像它们是方向盘，你是汽车，生活就是道路。
第一步：意识到自己在任何时刻的感受，仅仅这一步就能让你领先。
第二步：注意是什么触发了你的情绪，扩大你的情绪容忍度，慢慢的解决它们。
第三步：始终如一地练习，全身心地投入其中，情绪管理只是一种技能，依靠练习发展这种技能。
The process that I am going to tell you is very very simple but not easy.
But I just want you to do these things for 21 days and see the change in your life. I can promise you the way you see your world, your life, will definitely change and you'll become a much more cheerful and productive person. I am so sure because these are not some stupid techniques I am pasting here from internet, these are the techniques that I learnt, applied, modified and then applied again to get successful results.
Our heart is the one triggering the surge of emotions but our brain is the once which has the capability of regulating that surge and channeling our focus to wherever we want.
Let me tell you the practical application of this point.
我要告诉你们的办法非常简单，但并不容易。
在21天内做这些事情，看看你生活会发生什么变化。我可以向你保证，你看待世界、生活的方式会发生改变，你会成为一个更快乐、更有效率的人。我非常确定，因为这些不是我从互联网上粘贴到这里的愚蠢技术，这些是我学习、应用、修改然后再次应用，已经获得成功的技术。
我们的心灵触发了我们的情绪，但是，只有我们的大脑能够调节情绪，并引导我们的注意力转移到任何地方。
让我告诉你怎么应用这一点。
Have you ever noticed that whatever your first thought is, it triggers a chain of thoughts and nature of that chain is dependent on that first thought, whether good or bad.
That surge of emotions you feel is based on that chain which turns into overthinking and you get caught into this pendulum of negative emotion.
What I want you to do is that as soon as you realize that you're overthinking ,recognise the pattern, analyse if it's is a productive one or not.
If it's not, then shout loud in your brain “STOP!” Count from 5 to 0 backwards and feed your brain with a happy thought and enjoy that chain of positivity for sometime with a surge of positive emotions.
Your mind might get distracted again and wander in the areas of negativity and that's normal all you have to do everytime this happens, practice the same step again and again. This will eventually train your brain in not drifting and you'll get the grip of your emotions.
每当我们感觉到一种情绪时，我们大脑的一部分就会亮起来，也就是说，在那个特定的时间，我们的意识会集中在我们大脑亮起来的那个区域。
你有没有注意到，无论你的第一个想法是什么，它都会触发一系列的想法，而这一链条的性质取决于第一个想法，无论是好是坏。
你所感受到的情绪波动是建立在过度思考的链条上的，你会陷入消极情绪的钟摆中。
我让你做的是：一旦你意识到你在过度思考，识别出模式，分析它是否有效。
如果有害，那就在脑子里大声喊“停下！”。从5倒数到0，让你的大脑充满快乐的想法，并在一段时间内享受积极的情绪。
你的思维可能会再次分心，徘徊在消极的领域，这很正常，每次发生这种情况时，你都要反复练习同样的步骤。这最终会训练你的大脑不漂移，你会控制住自己的情绪。
I once thought it depended on individual personality types, But realized anyone can regulater their emotiions. One could focus on something that especially makes them happy, something that makes them feel happy, healthy, and appreciated. Sometimes you can merely often visit or be at places you enjoy beings at and sit and relax there thing nothing at all. It is excessive thinking that spoils ones’ emotions, and especially excessive negative thinking that rots into you causing you upset. I have learned from positive, bright-side thinkers and believers that when you see the best in people, and places, the better you yourself feel. I like long distance walking and some jogging to get that fresh oxygen that keeps my mind clear. The scenery at the parks keeps me calm and content, but if going there is impossible, then painting and doing my favorite hobbies usually works. Doing Art keeps my emotions regulated and focused. Focusing on something pleasing and positive all the times regulates your emotions to remaining that way. If you practice meditating, listening to the sound of your breathing will help train you to regulate your emotions. Meditating every day gets you into the habit of regulating your emotions.
我曾经认为这取决于个人的性格类型，但后来，我意识到任何人都可以调节他们的情绪。一个人可以专注于一些让他们快乐的事情，一些让他们感到快乐、健康和被欣赏的事情。有时候你会经常去你喜欢的地方，坐下来放松一下，什么都不做。过度的思考会破坏一个人的情绪，尤其是过度的消极思考会腐蚀你，让你心烦意乱。我从积极乐观的思考者和信徒那里学到，当你看到人和地方最好的一面时，你自己的感觉就会好。我喜欢用长途慢跑来获得新鲜的氧气，保持头脑清醒。公园里的风景让我保持平静和满足，但如果当时的情况不允许我去那里的时候，那么画画和做我最喜欢的爱好通常是有效的。做艺术能让我的情绪得到控制和集中。始终专注于令人愉悦和积极的事情可以调节你的情绪，使之保持这种状态。如果你练习冥想，倾听呼吸的声音将有助于训练你调节情绪。每天冥想会让你养成调节情绪的习惯。
I try not to dwell on the past (especially negative events on which I had no control).
I try to do more active things (such as writing, learning and exercising) than passive things (such as watching TV and spending time on internet) in a day.
I tell myself to be grateful for the things that I have and not feel upset about things I don’t.
I try not to compare.
I try to help others in whichever way I can and not be vengeful.
I sometimes practise healing exercises such as Qigong since I believe that emotional and physical well-being depends on how freely your life-energy is flowing through your body.
1、尽量不要沉湎于过去（尤其是我无法控制的负面事件）。
2、试着在一天内做更多积极的事情（比如写作、学习和锻炼），而不是被动的事情（比如看电视和上网）。
3、告诉自己要对我所拥有的东西心存感激，不要为我所没有的东西感到沮丧。
4、试着不去比较。
5、尽我所能帮助别人，不要心怀仇恨。
6、偶尔练习气功等康复运动，因为我相信情绪和身体的健康取决于你的生命能量在身体中流动的自由程度。
DISTRACTIONS
When I had the first heartbreak of my life, I knew I had to block her out . I hated being that whimpering teen. I realised that when I wasn’t going for my classes or being around my friends, I’d start thinking about her— her face, her smile, her voice, her every single thing.
So I had to distract myself.
I turned my attention towards books.
Every time I’d feel like going down that rabbit hole, I’d instead open a new work of fiction and just start reading stuff.
Soon I’d be lost in that world. Fiction has always been my escape, so I figured, why not use it to escape from these painful emotions.
Find your escape. Movies, TV, video-games, some sport; anything engaging which completely cut you out from your emotional cushion.
These days, it’s writing for me.
分散你的注意力。
当我生命中第一次心碎时，我知道我必须把她挡在门外。我讨厌成为一个哭哭啼啼的青少年。我意识到，当我不去上课或和朋友们在一起时，我就会开始想起她——她的脸、她的微笑、她的声音、她的每一件事。
所以我不得不分散注意力。
我把注意力转向了书。
每当我情绪低沉，我就会打开一本新的小说，开始读东西。
很快我就会迷失在小说世界。小说一直是我的逃避方式，所以我想，为什么不用它来逃避这些痛苦的情绪呢。
找到你的路。电影，电视，电子游戏，某种运动，任何能让你完全摆脱情绪的东西。
这些天，我在写作。
Watching a web-series or a movie works well for me too.
Really, the key to controlling emotions is very simple—
Keep yourself busy.
Keep yourself distracted.
Don’t attach yourself to someone or something.
Have the mind of an optimist— good things are coming.
Hope this helped :)
每当我感到失望、愤怒、悲伤或沮丧时，我就开始写作。主要是在Quora或其他网站上。当我写作的时候，我会全神贯注，所以我没有时间为自己的情绪烦恼。
看网络剧或电影对我来说也很好。
真的，控制情绪的关键很简单：
1、保持忙碌。
2、分散注意力。
3、不要依附于某人或某事。
4、要有乐观主义者的心态——要相信：好事就要来了。
希望这对你有帮助。
All emotions are perfectly normal. Anger , sadness, happiness , jealousy , resentment are all normal emotions and all serve evolutionary importance to keep an individual alive. So u can't really control them . But u can recognise to learn to recognise your emotions.for example anger may have been triggered by jealousy , demanding , betrayal , anger directed at others who are not the cause of anger. This is the key to educate yourself for the particular cause of an emotion , which often means being honest with yourself
所有的情绪都是完全正常的。愤怒、悲伤、快乐、嫉妒、怨恨都是正常的情绪，它们都具有进化的重要性，可以帮助个体维持生存。所以你无法真正控制他们。但是你可以学会识别你的情绪。例如，愤怒可能是由嫉妒、苛求、背叛、针对非愤怒起因的其他人的愤怒引发的。搞明白情绪的起因，是教育自己的关键，这通常意味着需要对自己诚实。