你会给出的最好的人生建议是什么？（2）
What is the best life advice you would give?
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你的个人和职业成长比你的爱人更重要。如果你是一个失败者，没有人会想和你在一起。
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What is the best life advice you would give?
你会给出的最好的人生建议是什么？
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Your personal and career growth is more important than your lover. If you are a failure, nobody will stay with you
Love fades with time and mood because it is a transient feeling.
Only you are responsible for your mistakes. Rather than blaming others, take full responsibility for your actions and avoid repeating again those mistakes.
Your problems are gossip for your friends. Your parents are the only people who care. For example, if you lose the job, your friends and relatives will only sympathize, but your parents are the ones who will face the problem and look for solutions.
Be a jack of all trades. Try learning different things and skills.
1 你的个人和职业成长比你的爱人更重要。如果你是一个失败者，没有人会想和你在一起。
2 爱情会随着时间和心情而消逝，因为它是一种短暂的感觉。
3 只有你要对你的错误负责。与其指责他人，不如为自己的行为负起全部责任，避免再次重复这些错误。
4 你的问题对你的朋友来说是八卦。你的父母是唯一关心你的人。例如，如果你失去了工作，你的朋友和亲戚只会表示同情，但你的父母才会面对问题并寻找解决方案。
5 成为万事通。尝试学习不同的事情和技能。
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All people are unique. You may not be good at studies but you may be good at designing. Focus on your skills and elevate them up to the level of excellence rather than feeling jealous and competing with talented people, which will make you mediocre. If you are really talented in a field, just go for it. Don't worry about what your friends and relatives might say.
Breakup with your lover is a blessing. You will only realize it after some years. Breakups change how you perceive and make you mature.
Don’t announce your goals and dreams on a loudspeaker. Once you achieve, the people will get to know.
Sex is a small act. It is overrated and hyped. Having sex doesn’t assure a long-lasting relationship.
6 要快乐，学会接受事实并继续前进。如果你的伴侣抛弃了你或对你不忠，请接受它，并意识到有更值得的人注定要出现在你的生活中。怜悯他们。
7 所有的人都是独一无二的。你可能不擅长学习，但你可能擅长设计。专注于你的技能，把它们提升到卓越的水平，而不是感到嫉妒，与有才华的人竞争，这将使你平庸。如果你在某个领域真的有天赋，就去做吧。不要担心你的朋友和亲戚会怎么说。
8 与恋人分手是一种祝福。你只有在若干年后才会意识到这一点。分手会改变你的看法，使你变得成熟。
9 不要用扩音器宣布你的目标和梦想。一旦你实现了，人们就会知道了。
10 性是一件小事。它被高估和夸大了。做爱并不能保证有长久的关系。
Nothing is wrong. Nothing is right. There are just consequences.
Your skills and talent will bring you way more success than good looks ever can. Focus on the former rather than wasting time on the latter.
Life is about perspective. Everyone functions as per their own perspective.
Reading and writing are constant development promoters. Invest your time in reading good books, especially non-fiction.
11 不要被很酷的朋友、派对、酒精、郊游、香烟所影响。这种现代性会浪费你的时间，让你后悔。
12 没有什么是错的。没有什么是对的。有的只是后果。
13 你的技能和天赋将给你带来比漂亮的外表更多的成功。专注于前者而不是在后者上浪费时间。
14 生活是关于观点的。每个人都按自己的观点行事。
15 阅读和写作是持续发展的促进因素。将你的时间用于阅读好书，特别是非小说类书籍。
Have fun with others, but make sure you spend the time to improve yourself.
Life starts after no contact. Stop dealing with toxic people.
Only your parents will be there to constantly support you. Take care of them.
Don’t be a friend with an ex who dumped you because when they get a new lover, they will again dump you. That will hurt and cause more pain.
When sexting a partner, favor their behavior, emotional bonding, intelligence, and compassion (not just for you but for all people) over their looks solely. Looks surely matter, but once you begin dating, the scale at which you like good looks will keep decreasing. Only a good and interesting person can sustain great relationships.
Be obsessed. Think of it, dream about it, feel it, talk about it, work for it, do everything on that one thing you want - the universe will ensure you get it.
16 生活中痛苦的原因是与消极的人在一起。让自己和积极的、志同道合的人在一起才会快乐。
17 与他人相处时要玩得开心点，但要确保你花了时间来提高自己。
18 生活从没有联系后开始。停止与有毒的人打交道。
19 只有你的父母会在那里不断支持你。照顾好他们。
20 不要和抛弃你的前任做朋友，因为当他们有了新的爱人，他们会再次抛弃你。这将伤害你和造成更多的痛苦。
21 在选择伴侣时，要偏向于他们的行为、情感纽带、智慧和同情心（不仅仅是对你，对所有的人），而不仅仅是他们的外表。长相肯定很重要，但一旦你开始约会，你喜欢好长相的尺度会不断降低。只有一个好的和有趣的人可以维持一段美妙的关系。
22 痴迷一件事。思考它，梦想它，感受它，谈论它，为它工作，为你想要的那件事做一切事情--宇宙会确保你得到它。
You probably have good parents. So your opinions about their unconditional love and care are luck, not a common experience for all, unfortunately.
你可能有一对好父母。所以你对他们无条件的爱和关怀的看法是幸运的，不幸的是，这不是所有人的共同经历。
Agree, i know to much parents from my neighbourhood, who is abusive to their children or who have interest in their children only, when their children are successful.
同意，我知道我周围有很多父母，他们虐待他们的孩子，或者只有在他们的孩子成功时才对他们的孩子有兴趣。
Last but not the least:
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最后但并非最不重要的：
了解更多关于投资股票和共同基金的信息。谢谢你。
A lot of this is bullshit. My dad is a vile, evil man who has proven that he DOES NOT care. That is why some of us have to look to “adoptive” parents….aunts, uncles (if you have them) or others. Also, all of us have been failures at times in our lives. A true testament of character is who sticks around during those times.
这里面有很多都是废话。我的父亲是一个卑鄙、邪恶的人，他已经证明了他并不在乎。这就是为什么我们中的一些人不得不寻找“养父母”……阿姨、叔叔（如果你有的话）或其他人。此外，我们所有人在生活中都有过失败的时候。品格的真正证明是谁能在这些时候坚持下来。
A beautiful answer to describe the ugly truth most people don’t want to hear. I can relate to almost everything, especially #4.
一个漂亮的答案，描述了大多数人不愿意听到的丑陋真相。我几乎对所有的事情都有感触，尤其是第4条。
It think you’ve been heart-braken many time. Everything related to relationship was negative in your answer. I disagree strongly with #1.
我认为你心碎过很多次。在你的答案中，与两性关系有关的一切都很消极。我非常不同意第1条的说法。
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To add to this:
Your personal and career growth is more important than your lover. If you are a failure, nobody will stay with you.
People who are confident in themselves and content about their success, who know their place in this world, make better lovers.
我来补充一下：
你的个人和事业发展比你的爱人更重要。如果你是一个失败者，没有人会和你在一起。
--对自己有信心并对自己的成功感到满意的人，知道自己在这个世界上的位置，会成为更好的爱人。
Everyone, and I do mean everyone fails at some point in their life. Love doesn’t care about that. If someone didn’t stay with you because you failed, I’m sorry for your loss, but you shouldn’t be - that’s not love.
每个人，我是说每个人都会在他们生命中的某个时刻经历失败。爱情并不关心这些。如果有人因为你的失败而没有和你在一起，我为你的损失感到遗憾，但你不应该变成这样--这不是爱。
The point 4 is true if the child is young and living with their parents. When parents are older, you don’t want to burden them with your adult problems on top of their problems. You may get lucky and have a great spouse, siblings or friends who will be there for you in your adult life.
如果孩子还小并与父母同住，则第 4 点是正确的。当父母年纪大了，你不会想在他们的问题之上再给他们带来你作为的一个成人的问题。你可能会很幸运，有一个很棒的配偶、兄弟姐妹或朋友会在你的成年生活中陪伴你。
Sex is not small act. Billion dollar industry depends upon it.
性可不是件小事。数十亿美元的产业依赖于它。
I may agree with some of your points but totally disagree with number 1. Your ex is a human being and not always an enemy. Many people have stripped their egos, got back with their exes and are happily married.
我可能同意你的一些观点，但完全不同意第1条。你的前任也是人，不一定是敌人。很多人最终都放下了他的自负，与前任重归于好，并且婚姻幸福。
Regarding your second bullet point, love doesn't fade. Perhaps the feelings of being in love does, but loving someone is a decision that we make. I decide to continue to love and cherish someone regardless of if their attractiveness fades with time or if unforeseen and unpleasant happenstance surface in their life. I decide to love that person to the best of my ability and while the emotional highs wax and wane, my love does not.
关于你说的第二点，爱是不会褪色的。也许恋爱的感觉会，但爱一个人是我们做出的决定。我决定继续爱和珍惜一个人，不管他们的吸引力是否会随着时间的推移而消失，或者他们的生活中是否会出现不可预见和不愉快的情况。我决定了尽我所能地去爱那个人，虽然情感的高潮起伏不定，但我的爱却不会。
It’d be nice if no. 4 and 19 were always true, but they aren’t. Toxic parents and siblings do exist and sometimes your friends care more about you than your own family.
How does that saying go: Thank God you cab choose your friends, because you’re stuck with your relatives.
如果第4条和第19条总是真实的，会很好，可惜不是。有毒的父母和兄弟姐妹是确实存在的，有时你的朋友比你自己的家人更关心你。
那句话怎么说来着：感谢上帝，你可以选择你的朋友，因为你和你的亲戚是绑定在一起的。
These are great advice. But some of us are not blessed with caring, loving, supportive parents. How do you propose we reconcile that with your positive outlook?
I think it’s easy for those with solid parental relationships to go through life with a happy go lucky, everything will be okay attitude because at the end of the day, you have people who still love and care for you, despite failures and harsh realities.
I often see people who never had unconditional acceptance and love from their parents fall through the cracks because they feel abandoned and alone, neglected, unloved, unsupported. No one seems to care about them. And they have a hard time learning to love and accept themselves. How do you advise these parent-less individuals to love themselves when the ones who brought them into the world, their parents, never showed them any love or affection or even kindness?
这些都是很好的建议。但我们中的一些人没有被赋予充满着关心、爱护、支持的父母。对于这些人你认为要如何与你提出的积极建议相协调？
我认为，对于那些拥有稳固的父母关系的人来说，很容易以一种幸福快乐、一切都会好起来的态度来度过生活，因为在一天结束时，尽管有失败和残酷的现实，你还有人爱你、关心你。
我经常看到那些从未从父母那里得到无条件接纳和爱的人因为感到被遗弃、孤独、被忽视、不被爱、不被支持而跌入谷底。似乎没有人关心他们。他们也很难学会爱和接受自己。当把他们带到这个世界上的人--他们的父母--从来没有向他们展示过任何爱或感情，甚至是仁慈时，你对这些没有父母的人该如何爱自己有什么建议呢？
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“ If you spank them (I’m against spanking) make sure that they understand the reasons for why” -
Years ago there was a campaign in England “Never Strike a Child in Anger”.
I was small at the time but I remember my Mum saying “That’s absolute rubbish; ONLY strike a child in anger! If your not angry and you strike a child then there is something very, very wrong with you and you should be locked up”.
几年前，英国有一个运动"永远不要在生气时打孩子"的运动。
当时我还小，但我记得我妈妈说："这绝对是胡说八道；只有在愤怒的时候才会打孩子！如果在你不生气的时候还打孩子，那么你就有很大很大的问题，你应该被关起来"。
Love yourself. Like yourself. Appreciate yourself. Cherish yourself. You’re all you’ve got. If you can genuinely do this, work hard but work smart, focus, have fun, relax, go easy, chill. You will attract the right kind of people and things will fall in to place.
爱自己。喜欢自己。欣赏自己。珍惜自己。你是你所拥有的一切。如果你能真正做到这一点，努力工作，并且要聪明地工作，专注，有乐趣，放松，轻松，冷静地工作。你就会吸引合适的人，事情也会落到实处。
Your parents aren’t always your biggest cheerleaders, some of them are critical, judgmental and compare you to others because that was how they were raised. Your family can be a source of stress and negativity.
你的父母并不总是你最大的啦啦队，他们中的一些人对你持批评、评判态度，并将你与他人进行比较，因为他们就是这样长大的。你的家人可能是压力和负面情绪的来源。