哪些事情极大地改善了你的生活质量，你后悔没早点做？
What improved your quality of life so much, you wish you did it sooner?
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What improved your quality of life so much, you wish you did it sooner?
哪些事情极大地改善了你的生活质量，你后悔没早点做？
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Learning to get over myself.
学会与自己和解。
Nobody cares what I do, nobody is looking at me, and why should I care if they are? Nobody outside my circle has enough context to make accurate judgements about how I live, so why am I trying so hard to justify my decisions? As soon as I adopted that mindset, being alive got significantly less shitty. I do my best to be a decent person and to take care of myself, and the only opinions I care about are mine, my partner's, and my therapist's.
根本没人在乎我干什么，也没有人在盯着我，就算他们盯着我看，我又为什么要在乎他们呢？我的圈子之外的人，没有一个人对我有足够的了解，可以对我的生活方式做出准确的评判，所以我为什么要这么努力地给我的决定找原因呢？在我接受了这一套思维的那一刻，我发现活着没有之前那么不堪了，我尽全力让自己活成一个体面的人，照顾好自己，我唯一在意的意见就是我自己，我的另一半，还有我的心理咨询师的意见。
DrPreetDS
We need a thread on how to do this
我们需要一个帖子教教我们该怎么做到
twaslol
How often do you think of other people, much less judge them? No one is thinking about you because no one truly cares about about anyone besides their closest friends and family. They're too busy thinking about their own lives, and they've already forgotten about the embarrassing thing you did and never stopped to think about your life choices. You shouldn't care what other people think, because they dont think anything at all the overwhelming majority of the time.
你平时会经常想到其他人吗？更不用说评判他们了。根本没人在真的考虑你的事情，因为没有人真的在乎他们最亲密的朋友和家人之外的人。他们忙着思考自己的生活，并且他们早就忘了你之前做过的令人难堪的事情，他们也从来没停下手头的工作，思考你的人生选择。你根本不应该在乎其他人怎么想，因为他们在人生的绝大部分时间之中根本什么都没在想。
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derpyblaze
Think about how you behave when you're walking in public. What do you think about? Do you really pay attention to others and make strong judgements? Sure, you might look someone and think something about them. Then you forget about it two minutes later. But most of the time, you are too busy thinking about yourself. Everyone is behaving the same way as you. Everyone is more concerned about themselves and they will forget about you.
想想你在公共场合走的时候，你是怎么表现的。你在思考什么？你真的在把注意力花在别人的身上，对他们做出立场强烈的批判吗？当然，你会看某人一眼，想一想他的事情。然后过两分钟之后你就把这回事给忘了。但是绝大多数情况下，你都会忙着想你自己的事情。所有人都和你一样。所有人都更关心他们自己，并且他们会把给你忘了的。
Nothammer
I have a huge problem with that, but I also have the firm belief that input from strangers, as long as it's not outright insulting, is worth the information. Strangers have the advantage of being unbiased, so one should at least try to take that into consideration. Ofc it all comes down to having the ability to distinguish 'worthy' input from an unnecessary one.
我以前在这方面的问题特别大，但我也坚定地相信来自陌生人的意见，只要不是特别直白的侮辱，都是值得参考的。陌生人的优势在于他们没有偏见，所有至少应该把这一点纳入考虑之中。当然最重要的是你要拥有把有价值的意见和没有价值的意见区分开的能力。
Senior-Evidence4642
You young kids will think this crazy but I am glad to have gotten older. All those things that worried me when I was in my twenties, just don’t matter anymore. I’m 67 now and much happier
你们年轻人可能觉得这有点离谱，但我很高兴自己变老了。在我20多岁的时候困扰我的那些东西，现在再也不是个事儿了。我今年67岁，比以前开心得多。
CuppaJeaux
Totally agree. 53 yo woman here. A ‘hottie’ in my youth. The relief and freedom with not feeling like my worth is dependent on my looks is palpable. I stopped dyeing my hair during quarantine and now I have this wild silver streak in the front that I love. I think I’m going to grow it long again and fully rock the witch vibe. Why? Cuz I’m old enough to no longer give a shit about other people’s judgment.
完全同意。我是个53岁的女人。年轻的时候我也是个“辣妹”。我能明显地感觉到在不需要将我的价值和我的外表绑定在一起之后，我所感到的释怀和自由。在疫情隔离期间我不再给自己染发，我很喜欢额前的几缕银丝。我想再把头发留长点，就要这股看上去像老巫婆的劲儿。为什么？因为我已经够老了，我不需要在乎别人的评判。
Also a lot of more substantial lessons about life and living and death.
还有，我也经历了很多人生、生活和死亡的重要教训。
thirdrocker1
Permanently placed my phone on Do Not Disturb (allow calls from Contacts). This one change saved me from constant disruptive unwanted calls. Life is good on No Ring Lane.
我把自己的手机设置成了永远处于勿扰状态（只允许联系人来电）。这个设置让我再也接不到那些总是打过来让我分神的骚扰电话。没有电话铃的生活真的是太好了。
theginger_buffalo
I did something similar. I turned off push notifications for pretty much every app.
我也做了类似的事情。我基本上把每一个应用的推送通知都给关掉了。
readsallday
I did this too. Turned off all notifications for all apps. I only see messages, upxes, whatever, if I intentionally go to that app to look for them. Absolute life changer. Took away stress I didn’t even know I had.
我也做了这件事。我把所有应用的所有通知都给关了。现在我无论是看短信，升级还是什么，都是自己主动去那个应用看。绝对改变了我的生活。把很多我甚至都不知道自己有的压力给一扫而空。
windraver
Buying a good knife for cooking.
买一把好厨刀。
Zuzublue
I just got a whetstone and it’s a game changer! Tomato season is glorious now.
我刚买了个磨刀石，简直改变了一切！番茄成熟的季节现在对我来说太棒了。
·AlternativeRip4728
·Cutting out toxic "friends". After years of knowing someone it can be hard to see that they are no longer the person they were when the relationship started. My childhood best friend grew into a manipulative selfish prick. For years I hung out with him almost every day after work and always felt miserable afterwards. Everyone around me questioned why I still spent time with him. I always made excuses that seem ridiculous in hindsight. I should have cut ties 10 years ago.
和那些不好的“朋友”切割。在互相认识几年之后，你可能很难看出他们已经不再是你们的关系刚开始时的那个人了。我童年时最好的朋友变成了一个操纵他人的、自私的人渣。几年来我几乎每天都下班之后和他一起打发时间，但每次回家之后我都觉得很糟糕。身边的每个人都问我为什么我还花时间和他在一起。我总是会找一些事后看起来实在可笑的借口。我本来在10年前就应该跟他撇清关系的。
mcnugsss
I am struggling with making this transition. One of my best friends growing up is honestly an immensely selfish person today. It pains me knowing that when I make this next change there is a real possibility that they will pretty much stop existing in my life. I know it has to happen because it would be best for me, but the fear of losing an old “friend” is crippling. The reality is they are already lost and I need to move on for my own well being.
我还在努力做出这种改变。我的一个好朋友现在变成了一个无比自私的人。每次想到当我决定做出这种改变的时候，他有非常大的可能以后就再也不在我的人生中存在了，我就感到非常痛苦。我知道这种事情是一定会发生的，因为这对我来说是最好的，但对于失去老“朋友”的恐惧仍然让我感到痛苦。现实是他们已经迷失了自己的方向，为了我自己的好处，我得继续往前走。
BOBauthor
Yoga. I'm an old guy, and discovered it at age 56 in 2005. By now I'm still not terribly proficient, but yoga has kept me limber. More importantly, it has been amazing for improving my peace of mind. Whenever somebody asks why I practice yoga, I reply, "For peace of mind."
瑜伽。我已经很老了，在2005年我56岁的那年发现了这项运动。今年我在这方面仍然不是很擅长，但瑜伽让我的身体保持柔软。更重要的是，瑜伽帮助我改善了我的内心平静。每次有人问我为什么要练瑜伽，我都回答，“为了让自己内心平静。”
LoftyGoat
An Indian friend of mine runs a restaurant, an incredibly stressful job. It was eating him alive until he started doing yoga.
我有个印度朋友开餐厅，这是一件压力很大的工作。在他开始做瑜伽之前，这项工作简直要把他生吞了。
Thinking he'd gotten some yoga master from back home to teach him, I asked him how he learned. "You Tube! It's great. You can find everything there."
我以为他是从家里找了个瑜伽大师来教他，我问他是怎么学的，他说“YouTube！太棒了。你在里面什么都能找到。”
And hey, he's like a different guy now.
说真的，他现在简直像是另一个人。
Mizerooskie
Independent blankets for my wife and I in bed. Incredible how much better you sleep when there's no waking up with blankets pulled half off or using one that's too heavy or too light.
给我和我老婆准备两张分开的被子。再也不会半夜醒来发现被子全都被拽到一边，或者你觉得太重她觉得太轻，对自己的睡眠真的太好了。
I'd HIGHLY recommend for anyone that sleeps with a significant other.
我为所有和自己的另一半一起睡的人强烈推荐这个。
ObanKenobi
My girlfriend and I were flatmates before we started dating. We've been a couple for nearly a year now but still have the two separate bedrooms. When we first started dating we talked about how great it's going to be that we can move into the bigger room and turn the other one into a studio/craft room/office/whatever...eventually we realized that we really really like having separate beds to sleep in. We can have sex in either room, cuddle for hours and watch a movie after, etc, but then when it comes time to actually sleep we can go our separate ways and get a good quality uninterrupted night of sleep. If one of us just needs a nap while the other is doing something in the room, we just go to the other bedroom and sleep. If we need some time to ourselves for any reason, the other room is there. We have 'sleepovers' in each others rooms sometimes and it feels fresh and fun every time because it's not the norm, it's like living together and having our own place all at once. I feel like we've reinvented the wheel with how well it's worked for us so far
我和我女朋友在开始处对象之前就是室友。我们现在已经结婚将近一年了，但我们仍然睡两间卧室。在我们刚开始处的时候，我们都想象假如我们能搬进一间大卧室一起睡，然后把另一间卧室改成工作室/制造室/办公室/等等，该有多棒……最终我们发现我们真的真的特别喜欢自己睡自己的床。我们可以随便在哪间卧室做爱，互相拥抱几个小时，再看个电影，等等，但到了该睡觉的时候我们就各回各家，睡一个精致的，不受打扰的觉。假如我们因为种种原因需要自己待一会儿，我们也有自己的卧室可以用。我们有时会在对方的卧室“过夜”，每次都让我们感到新鲜有趣，因为这不是常态，就好像是既能住在一起，又能每个人都有自己的空间。我觉得我们就像是重新发明了轮子，对我们来说太管用了。
RulerOfAcquisition
Breathing exercises. Focusing on really deep exhales. After about 10mins my whole outlook for the day changes.
呼吸练习。将你的注意力集中于非常深的呼气。过了十分钟，我对一天的态度都变了。
ivebeenonheretoolong
I went back to find this comment, I read this and thought I’d try it. I didn’t think I’d even make it ten minutes. A half hour later I felt almost high off oxygen. I’m writing to let you know that I feel much calmer now. Thanks for the breath of fresh air
我回来就是为了找这条评论。我读了这条之后觉得自己可以试一试。我甚至不认为自己能坚持10分钟。过了半个小时，我觉得自己吸氧都要吸上头了。我想让你知道，现在我觉得冷静多了。感谢你让我呼吸新鲜空气。
ParaPixie
I lost 100lbs. I have about 100 more to go, but being so obese you can't find clothes at Walmart and nearly dying from non-essential organ failure at 25 (gallbladder) really isn't a way to live.
我减了100磅（译注：约45.4kg）的体重。我还有100磅要减，但胖到在沃尔玛都买不到衣服，在25岁那年差点因为不重要的脏器（胆囊）发生衰竭而死掉真的不是什么好的活法。
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I literally couldn't run. Or get off the floor without grabbing something. I used to break or bend lawn chairs. NOT FUN. EMBARRASSING AF.
我真的连跑都不能跑。手上不扶着点什么东西也没办法从地板上站起来。我以前会把躺椅压弯或者坐碎。真的不好玩。很令人难堪。
smango19
Buying a wardrobe of good quality, properly fitting clothing that I actually like.
用质量优秀的、穿起来合身的、我真的喜欢的衣服把衣柜填满。
Agonizing over what to wear every morning because this doesn't fit properly, this one has a stain, I just wore that yesterday, I don't like how this sits on my body would start my day off very badly.
每天早晨都因为不知道穿哪件衣服而掉头发，因为这件不合身，那件有污垢，那件昨天穿过了，我不喜欢这件和我身体贴合的样子，这种想法会让我的一天开始得很糟糕。
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haveyouseenmygnocchi
For me the big thing was realizing that the size I buy doesn’t matter. It’s how it fits. I have some tops that are a size S. I have some tops that are an XL. Who the hell cares what size is on the label. Don’t stick to one size because that’s ‘your size’. If you like something try on different sizes and find out which suits you best.
最我来说最重要的是衣服尺码不重要，重要的是和我是否合身。我有些上衣的尺码是S，有些上衣的尺码是XL。谁会在乎你衣服上的尺码多大啊。别只买一个尺码的衣服，只因为那是“你的尺码”。假如你喜欢某件衣服，那就所有码都试一试，选出最适合你的那一件。
ontha-comeup
Getting my finances in order. It’s life on easy mode now.
做好理财。现在我的人生变成简单模式了。
Longjumping-Step-270
43y.o. Started exercising regularly again. 4x a week. Forget the physical benefits for a minute, the mental benefits outweigh the "gains" all day.
今年43岁。重新开始了锻炼身体。每周四次。都不用考虑对我的身体带来的好处，精神上的好处就已经值得我一整天的付出了。
Scrappy_Larue
Bought a cart that carries my groceries from the car to my apartment. No more trying to carry five bags in each hand.
买了个拖车，可以把我买的菜从车子拖到公寓。再也不用每只手都拎五个袋子了。
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hellofellowhumanss
Sleeping when I’m sleepy
困的时候就睡。
FrozenHearts00
Instructions unclear: fired from work
指示不明确：被开除了
ClownfishSoup
Let me introduce you to "Car Naps".
让我给你介绍介绍“车里盹儿”吧。
At my office, pretty much every new parent co-worker would eat a quick lunch then sit in their car and nap. Or take a 20 minute coffee break in their car. You knew the car nappers because their cars would be parked in a lot that was not quite visible from the office due to some trees and the spots were shaded.
我上班的地方，基本上每个刚当上爸爸妈妈的同事都会飞快地对付掉午饭，然后坐在他们的车里开始打盹儿。或者在车里进行20分钟的咖啡休息。你知道他们是在车里打盹儿的，因为他们的车会停在那种因为有树挡着或者有影子盖着，从办公室看不见的地方。
Zentopian
When I try to take a nap, I wake up 8 hours later.
我每次想要打盹，都会在8小时之后醒过来。
PresentationHead2143
My problem is I'm always sleepy
我的问题在于我没有不困的时候。
zzaannsebar
From one chronically sleepy person to another, here's a helpful list of things you should run through to see if any of them might be contributing to your sleepiness
从一个长期感到困倦的人那里转过来的，这是一个很有帮助性的清单，你可以从头到尾对一遍，看看这些项目里有没有一个是导致你的困倦的因素。
Actual Sleep Related issues:
与睡眠真正相关的问题：
Do you keep a consistent sleep schedule? (waking up at the same time everyday no matter what)
你有长期规律的睡眠习惯吗？（不论发生什么事，每天都在同样的时间醒来）
No caffeine within 8 hours of going to bed? (even if you can fall asleep with caffeine in your system, your quality of sleep is decreased)
在上床睡觉之前8小时以内，喝过咖啡吗？（就算你可以在体内仍有咖啡因的情况下入睡，你的睡眠质量也会受到影响）
No alcohol within a few hours of going to bed? (same as caffeine where you can fall asleep and frequently people report falling asleep more easily, but alcohol disrupts your sleep cycles and causes worse sleep)
睡觉之前几小时喝过酒吗？（和咖啡因一样，你确实可以入睡，并且经常有人说喝酒之后入睡更轻松，但酒精会扰乱你的睡眠周期，让你睡得更糟糕）
Do you take naps late in the day?
白天会在比较晚的时候打盹吗？
Do you find the times you're naturally most alx to be significantly different than what is considered normal? (there are circadian rhythm sleep disorders that cause lots of sleepiness if you're not sleeping when your body naturally wants to. Needs sleep specialist diagnosis)
你有没有觉得自己在一天中最为清醒的那段时间和正常人的非常不同？（有一种名叫日夜节律睡眠障碍的东西，假如你在你的身体自然地想要睡觉的时候没有在睡觉的话，你会感到非常困倦。需要睡眠方面的专家来诊断）
Do you get enough sleep? (7-9 hours is typically considered normal for adults, but sleep needs vary person to person)
你睡得够吗？（普通成年人必要的睡眠时间是7-9小时，但人与人的睡眠时间不同）
Do you snore, especially loudly or wake up gasping? (snoring can be rated to sleep apnea a condition where you stop breathing in your sleep and your body is constantly waking up because of it. Sleep apnea has to be diagnosed with a sleep study. It can also be life threatening if severe enough and left untreated (
你是否打鼾，甚至打得很响，或者醒来的时候大口喘气？（打鼾可能与睡眠呼吸暂停有关，你会在睡眠当中停止呼吸，并且你的身体会因此经常在中途醒来。睡眠呼吸暂停是需要对睡眠质量进行监测来诊断的。假如足够严重，并且没有接受妥善治疗，那么也有可能对生命造成威胁。
Any history of sleep disorders in your family?
你的家庭中有没有睡眠障碍病史？
Bodily Issues:
身体问题：
Do you have depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues?
你是否有抑郁，焦虑或其他心理健康问题？
Do you get enough sunlight early in the morning and throughout the day? (bright light early in the morning helps regulate sleep cycles which should help you feel more awake during the day. Plus also vitamin D deficiency can cause fatigue)
你在早晨，以及在这一整天中，是否有接受过足够的阳光照射？（早晨明亮的光照能够规律睡眠循环，这能让你在白天觉得更加清醒。还有，维生素D缺乏也会导致疲劳）
Are you deficient in any vitamins or minerals? (need blood tests to see official levels but specifically vitamins D, B, and K along with Iron are essential for how you feel in regards to sleepiness and fatigue)
你是否缺乏维生素或矿物质？（需要进行血液测试来正式确定含量，不过维生素D、B、K和铁元素是对你在困倦和疲惫这方面起到非常重要作用的物质）
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Are you eating enough? (extreme calorie deficits can cause fatigue. Moderately low deficits, i.e., 500 calories under your tdee, should not cause this issue)
你吃得够多吗？（热量摄入严重不足会导致疲倦。相对低的不足，比如比每日总消耗热量少500卡路里以下，不会导致这种问题）
Do you exercise regularly?
你有规律的锻炼习惯吗？
Are you drinking enough water? (recommended water intake varies from source to source but generally a good rule of thumb is to drink between .5-1.0 ounces per pound of bodyweight. Adjust according to weather and activity level. Also note that things like caffeine and alcohol dehydrate you so you should accommodate your intake accordingly)
你喝的水足够多吗？（不同来源推荐的水摄入量不同，但总地来说最好用的判断标准就是每磅体重喝0.5-1盎司水。根据天气和活动程度调整。还有需要注意的是，咖啡因和酒精会消耗你体内的水，所以你应该根据这些变量调整你的水摄入。）
Do you have any chronic health conditions? (lots of medical issues can contribute to sleepiness and fatigue, including but absolutely not limited to autoimmune diseases, thyroid issues, and pain disorders)
你有没有慢性健康问题？（很多医学问题会导致困倦和匹配，包括但不仅限于自免疫疾病，甲状腺疾病以及疼痛障碍等）
Are you stressed or very under-stimulated? (this is just my personal experience, but if I'm stressed I tend to feel extra sleep from dealing with it. If I'm really bored or under-stimulated, I also tend to feel more tired but if I find something engaging to do, I find myself feeling more awake)
你是否生活压力较大，或者非常缺乏激励？（这是我个人的体验，但假如我压力很大，那么我会感到自己需要为了释放压力而多睡很久。假如我真的感到无聊或者缺乏激励，我也会感到更加疲倦，但是假如我找到了让我愿意做的事情，我会发现自己更加清醒。）
This list is not exhaustive by any means but could be a helpful starting point if you're not sure why you're tired.
这个列表并没有列出所有原因，但假如你不确定自己为什么感到疲倦的话，那么可以从这里开始。
makemeking706
Drink more water. Fatigue is one of the first symptoms of mild dehydration. If that doesn't help, ask a doctor.
多喝水。疲倦是轻度缺水的一个症状。假如多喝水没有用，就去看医生。
D1sCoL3moNaD3
Eating healthy. It’s amazing after you realize how much you feel like shit after you just took down a double cheese burger, extra large fries, and a large coke, but at the time, you don’t realize it and just “think” you’re tired. Good eating habits and exercising changed my life.
吃健康的食物。在你吃了个双层芝士汉堡，超大份薯条和一杯大可乐之后你会觉得自己又累又困，但那时你意识不到是食物导致的，你只是“以为”自己累了。良好的饮食和锻炼习惯改变了我的人生。
neoastic
Letting my pride and ego take hits. I used to have been such a 'me, me, me' person in my early life. When I allowed myself to be taken down a peg or two, I started having new perspectives on life and people around me.
学会让我的自尊和自我接受打击。我以前习惯于当一个“我我我”的人。在我允许自己接受一点打击之后，我开始对人生和我身边的人有了新的视角。
RoguePlanet1
It's a great lesson for young people: If you're wrong about something, don't double-down on it, just admit fault, learn, and keep it movin'. We all make mistakes, let's quit pretending we're somehow "better" than everybody else!
对于年轻人来说是个很重要的教训：假如你某件事情错了，别太在意，承认你的错误，反思学习，然后继续前进。我们都会犯错，别再假装我们比别人都“厉害”了！
spidermanicmonday
This is such a hard one to get people to change, partially because of egos, but largely because it is super ingrained in everyone that it is horrible to contradict something you've said in the past, like you are either a liar or you must not have strong convictions. It's like personal growth is actively frowned upon, unfortunately.
这一点想要让别人改变真的太难了，尤其是因为自尊，但主要是因为对每个人来说有一件事已经刻在他们的心里了，那就是假如你现在相信的和你之前说过的相冲突，那就太可怕了，你要么是个骗子，要么内心毫不坚定。就好像人们对个人的成长很有意见一样。
DnDYetti
Learning to be okay with saying "no" and starting off all relationships (personal and professional) with healthy boundaries. You don't ever need an excuse to say "no" to if you don't want to do something.
学会接受自己说“不”，给所有的关系（不论是私人的还是工作上的）都设置好健康的边界。假如你不想做某事的话就直接说“不”，不需要给自己找个理由。
Don't feel like going out with friends that night? No thank you.
那天晚上不想和朋友出去玩？那就直接说不。
Don't want to work an extra shift at your place of employment if it's not mandatory? No thanks boss!
在你工作的地方，不想加非强制性的班，不用了，老板！
Boundaries are amazing, and when set from the beginning, they are much easier to maintain for your own mental well being.
边界是很有用的，并且假如一开始就设置好，那么为了你自己的心理健康，保持住这个边界就会变得非常轻松。
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Delica
I was very shy and self-conscious, but at some point I started just living how I wanted. I already wasn't popular, what was I risking? Girls still wouldn't be interested?
我以前特别害羞，也特别在意自己的表现。但从某一刻开始，我突然决定活成自己想要的样子。反正我已经不受欢迎了，我还有什么风险可以冒呢？女孩不还是不会对我感兴趣？
I guess I just started doing things I’d been afraid to do before, including being more outgoing. I know this sounds like generic advice but it really worked for me.
我开始做一些之前不敢坐的事情，比如让自己更外向。我知道这听起来像是没用的心灵鸡汤，但真的对我有好处。
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Every time your brain says “No, that wouldn’t work out” or “No, what would people think” or any other version of “No, don’t try,” it’s a perfect opportunity to do something you feel drawn to! Dye your hair pink. Try painting even though you “know” you’ll suck at it. Fart and then say “It was me.” Ok, maybe not the last one.
每次你听见自己的脑子在说“不，这没用的”或者“不，人们会怎么想啊”或者任何版本的“不，别试”的时候，你就遇到了一个完美的做自己想做的事情的机会！把你的头发染成粉色。试着去画画，就算你“知道”自己画得稀烂。放个屁，然后说“我放的”。好吧最后一点可能不太行。
Toast_On_The_RUN
How do you shut out that self conscious voice that thinks it knows the outcome of every situation? There's always something telling me why I shouldn't or can't do something I'm scared of.
你是怎么屏蔽掉那个自省的声音的，他永远觉得自己知道每件事的结果？总有个东西在我的脑海里告诉我我为什么不应该，或者不能做我害怕去做的事情。
LabCoat_Commie
For me, it took acknowledging my own adulthood and really, truly gripping the fact that even if I fuck up, once I decide I'm going to do it, I'll do it and deal with the consequences.
对我来说，重要的是理解我自己已经长大成人，以及真正地意识到就算我弄糟了，只要我决定做这件事，我就要去做，我就要面对相应的后果。
I work in R&D, and I still have to remind myself that for every 1 project that goes right, there are going to be 99 that flop and just don''t go the way I want. But if I don't do those other 99 and learn from them, I'll never get that magical happy feeling when it hits the bullseye.
我在研发部门工作，我总得提醒自己，每一个成功的研究计划的背后都会有99个不如愿的失败计划。但假如我不做这99个失败的计划，并且从中学习的话，我就永远不会遇到研究成功时那种魔法一般的幸福感。
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Being scared is fine. Being so scared that it prevents you from living requires a lot of willpower to overcome.
害怕本身没问题。但是害怕到自己连好好活着都做不到，需要大量的意志力来克服。
FarmerExternal
Starting anti-depressants. I literally am a different person than I used to be, in a good way. I feel more confident in myself, more caring about other people while still having very defined boundaries. Life changing
开始吃抗抑郁药物。我现在和之前完全是两个人了，从积极的角度来说。我觉得自己更加自信，更加关爱他人，但仍然有非常明显的底线。改变了我的生活。
sz24ph
Thiis! I used to be scared that they were going to turn me into a different person (in a bad way), that I would lose all the parts of me that were empathetic and emotional. It's true-- I do feel emotions a little less deeply (used to be debilitating), but honestly it's such a welcome change from the person that used to be stuck replaying negative feelings over and over.
没错！我以前一直很害怕这种东西会把我变成一个不同的人（以一种糟糕的方式），会让我失去那些有同情心的、感性的部分。确实如此——我对感情的感知没有以前那么深刻了（以前会让我无法呼吸），但说真的对于那个困在负面的情绪中一遍一遍循环播放的我来说，这是一个值得接受的改编。
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Obviously, drugs don't solve everything but at least it gets me out of bed in the morning so I can actually try to make progress. And say no to people. I'm glad to see someone else also took the dive and is doing well!
显然，药物不会解决一切问题，但至少它会让我早晨起床之后有足够的动力尝试做出一些改变。以及对人说不。我很乐意看到别人也做出了尝试，并且做得很好！
atlantis_airlines
Throwing out ALL my socks and buying a single type.
把我的所有袜子都扔掉，只买同一种袜子。
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No more looking for pairs.
再也不用找另一只袜子了。
Soulshot96
Tried this. Was great short term, but my washer/dryer broke. Started using a public laundromat, and somehow not only am I losing socks, but I am gaining other socks I've never seen before.
试过。短期很不错，但我的洗衣机坏了，只能用公用的洗衣机。不知道为什么我不止开始丢袜子，还开始多出一些自己从来没穿过的袜子。
I think the damn dryers are eating/regurgitating other socks, and it's super annoying lol.
我觉得那个该死的烘干机在吃袜子然后反刍。这真的很让我恼火，哈哈哈
regnarbensin_
Accepting at 28 that I was a very emotional guy and letting myself cry whenever I needed to. I swear I cried constantly for about a year straight, as if catching up on all the feelings I repressed my whole life. However, it tapered off about a year ago and it kinda sucks. It’s as if I literally grew thicker skin through truly allowing myself to feel the painful things I felt and it’s become increasingly difficult to cry like I used to. It felt really good to just let everything out!
28岁那年接受自己是一个非常感性的人的事实，允许我自己在需要的时候大哭一场。我大约有一年的时间经常哭，就好像在把我过去遏制的所有感情都补回来一样。然而，大概一年前我哭的次数变少了，这有点糟糕。就好像因为允许自己感受那些痛苦的事情，我的脸皮又变厚了，我又变得很难像以前一样哭出来了。能够释放一切真的让我感觉非常好！
Strange-Machine2534
Electric toothbrush. Much easier and cleans 100x better. I have no problem brushing for the recommended 2 minutes because my hand/arm don't get tired from having to manually brush.
电动牙刷。更轻松，刷起来干净100倍。我刷两分钟的牙再也没有问题了，因为我的胳膊不会因为刷牙而变累。
inanotherlife974
Getting a good mattress. Makes a world of a difference.
买张好床垫。天差地别。
Superb-Descxtion10
Running!!
跑步！
MechemicalMan
I started up right towards the end of college, ran a full mile and struggle-bussed it. Fast forward about 2 years later, and I decided I was going to run daily, try to get a few miles in after work before I get home. I ended up getting up to about 8 miles one night and was amazed I got that far. Another 2 years later I joined a local run club and actually put in some impressive times that I didn't think I had capability of.
我是从大学快毕业的时候开始跑步的，拼尽全力跑了一英里。快进到2年以后，我决定要每天都跑步，在下班之后回家之前跑几英里。有一天晚上我跑了8英里，惊讶于自己竟然跑了这么远。又过了两年，我加入了当地的跑步俱乐部，跑出了一些自己从不觉得自己能做到的优秀成绩。
I then moved, found a different run club, met my wife, we now have a child and cats and an awesome place together. I've done some ultra-running, triathlons, all sorts of stuff. A lot of my friends will comment how great of shape both of us are in, but honestly, we've just maintained the same shape since high school. I'm not too much different, I just work out daily and never really stopped.
然后我搬家了，去了另一个跑步俱乐部，遇见了我的妻子，我们现在生了一个孩子，养了几只猫，住在一个很好的地方。我跑过超远距离，铁人三项，各种运动。我有很多朋友都说我们两个的身材有多好，但说实话，我们只不过是保持住了高中以来的身材而已。我跟之前没什么不同，我只不过是每天都锻炼，从没停下来过。
So yeah, I'd recommend running to everyone. The best part is you already have the gear. Just put on some tennis shoes, throw on a tshirt and shorts, you're ready to go. Don't worry about the fancy running shorts or shoes when starting, you'll want them eventually, but for doing a few mile a few times a week, all one needs are just some regular athletic shoes.
所以没错，我愿意向大家推荐跑步。最棒的一点是你已经有跑步所需的装备了。只需要穿上网球鞋，穿一件T恤一件短袖，你就可以开跑了。刚入门的时候别想那些超酷的短裤和跑鞋，你总有一天会需要的，但如果每星期只跑几次，每次跑几英里的话，你只要普通的运动鞋就足够了。