你的父母有多严格(二)
How strict are your parents?
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网友：背景知识—我是一个15岁的高中学生。我和我的妈妈、继父（尽管他对我来说就像一个真正的父亲—我3岁时就认识他了，他们在我6岁时就结婚了），还有我7岁的弟弟住在一起。衣服:我想穿什么就穿什么，但要得到我妈妈的同意。不能穿能看到屁股的短裤，不能穿超短裙（如果露点肚子也没关系），要穿适合这个季节的衣服......
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How strict are your parents?
你的父母有多严格？
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Background knowledge - I’m a 15 year old in high school. I live with my mom, step-dad (though he’s just like a real father to me- I’ve known him since I was 3, and they got married when I was just turning 6), and my 7 year old brother.
Clothes
I’m allowed to wear whatever I want, but my mother has to approve. No shorts where you can see your ass, no super high crop tops (if it shows a little bit of stomach its okay I guess), and proper clothing for the season. I usually dress plainly for all seasons (like a cute top and jeans, or a cute top and cute shorts). I’m also allowed to wear bikinis in the summer, but I don’t.
My mom and I have a different fashion taste sometimes, so that’s where things get messy.
每个人都在回答这个问题，所以我想我也应该来回答一下，对吧?
背景知识—我是一个15岁的高中学生。我和我的妈妈、继父（尽管他对我来说就像一个真正的父亲—我3岁时就认识他了，他们在我6岁时就结婚了），还有我7岁的弟弟住在一起。
衣服:我想穿什么就穿什么，但要得到我妈妈的同意。不能穿能看到屁股的短裤，不能穿超短裙（如果露点肚子也没关系），要穿适合这个季节的衣服。我通常一年四季都穿朴素的衣服（比如一件可爱的上衣配牛仔裤，或者一件可爱的上衣配一条可爱的短裤）。我也可以在夏天穿比基尼，但我没有穿过。
我和我妈妈有时有不同的时尚品味，所以事情就会变得一团糟。
Oof, okay. So, I have my own laptop, airpods, iPad, and iPhone, but here’s the thing - I never get to use them. I use my laptop and airpods for school, but my parents track every little thing on my computer. They can practically see every keystroke. I’m shocked they haven’t seen quora yet. Either they know and they’re waiting to use it against me, or they haven’t figured it out yet.
Same with my phone. I rarely have it, and it’s tracked. When I do have it, it’s when I’m places I’m not with a close family member. So I don’t get it when I go to one of my grandmother’s houses, but I’ll get it when I go to my (biological) dad’s house or like an aunt and uncle’s. I also only get it when we go on car trips. I have it at least twice a week, and that’s only because one of those days I’m home alone for a few hours, and the other day I have my usual 30 minute talk with my (biological) dad (we call every Tuesday to upxe each other on what’s going on with our lives).
I never have my iPad. I only get it for car trips so I can watch movies on it.
电子产品:噢,好吧。我有我自己的笔记本电脑，耳机，平板电脑和手机，但问题是—我从来没用过它们。上学的时候我会带上我的笔记本电脑和耳机，但我的父母会跟踪我电脑上的每一个小东西。他们几乎可以看到我每一次击键。我很震惊他们还没看过知乎（quora）。要么是他们知道了，就等着用它来对付我，要么就是他们还没想明白。
我的手机也是。因为手机也会被追踪，所以我很少用它。当我真的拥有它的时候，就是我和一个亲密的家庭成员在一起的时候。所以当我去祖母家的时候我不会用，但是当我去我（亲生的）父亲家或者像叔叔阿姨家的时候我就会带上我的手机。我也只在开车旅行的途中才用。我每周至少会用两次，那只是因为其中一天我独自在家呆了几个小时，另一天我和我的（亲生的）爸爸进行了30分钟的谈话（我们每周二都会打电话告诉对方我们的生活情况）。
我也从来不用我的iPad。我只在开车旅行时用它来看电影。
I don’t have any social media, once so ever. At least, I’m not allowed to.
I had Instagram when I was younger (for some strange reason), but it got disabled because my mom decided to put my real birthdate, and it locked me out for being too young a few years ago. I never got it back. My mom said I can get it for my 14th birthday (my grandmother is my witness), but she’s gotten cold feet. It’s well past my 14th birthday, and my mother says she never said I could get it (again, I have a witness, so…).
Both parents agreed they will never allow me to have Snapchat while I’m under their roof. At least that’s how I took it.
They don’t know I have both Quora and Discord. I plan to keep it that way. I mean, I need some kind of escape.
My (step) dad says he sees no point in social media, and doesn’t understand the big fuss. He thinks it’s worthless and I shouldn’t have it. My mom on the other hand… I don’t know her reasons, but she still says no. Meanwhile, she has both Snapchat and Insta and is on it all the time.
I also have a T.V in my room, but I need permission to watch it. I do sneak it sometimes though.
Make-up
I’m not allowed to wear make-up out. Apparently I’m “not in a fashion show”, so I shouldn’t wear it.
No colored lip-anything, no mascara, no eyeshadow, etc…
I’ll sneak on some blush and light mascara on sometimes, and lip balms and such that have a small tint on them.
社交媒体：我没有用过任何社交媒体，一次都没有。不管怎么说，他们不允许我用。
我很小的时候我就有了Instagram的账号（出于某种奇怪的原因），但几年前，我妈妈决定把我的真实生日加到Instagram上，因为我太小了，所以我就没法用它了。我再也找不回来那个账号了。我妈妈说我可以在14岁生日的时候得到它（我祖母是我的证人），但是她反悔了。我的14岁生日已经过去了，我妈妈说她从来没有说过我可以得到它（再说一次，我有一个证人，所以……）。
父母都同意我在他们家的时候，他们绝对不会允许我用色拉布（"阅后即焚"照片分享应用）。至少我是这么觉得的。
他们不知道我有Quora和Discord（聊天软件）的账号。我打算一直这样下去。我是说，我需要某种形式的逃避。
我的继父说，他认为社交媒体没有意义，他也不明白为什么要因此大惊小怪。他认为它毫无价值，我不应该用它。另一方面，我妈妈，我不知道她因为什么原因不允许我用，但她就是拒绝了。与此同时，她有色拉布和Instagram（在线照片共享软件）的账号，而且一直在用。
我房间里也有台电视，但我需要得到允许才能看。不过我有时会偷偷看。
化妆：我不被允许在化妆之后外出。显然我“不是在走秀”，所以我不应该化妆。
我没有口红，没有睫毛膏，没有眼影，等等。
我有时会偷偷地涂一些腮红、睫毛膏、润唇膏和一些稍微有点颜色的口红。
I have to run by shows and movies I want to watch with my parents. My Netflix it set to a specific setting (around TV-14 or so), but a lot of the shows I want to watch aren’t on there (the new Hollywood, and both seasons of American Crime Story - mores o Season 2, which is The Assassination of Gianni Versace. They say they’re both too sexual for me, which is probably true. I think I could handle it, though).
The only exceptions were Schitts Creek and the Politician, which I watched on my (step) dad’s account. And the only reason I was allowed to watch the Politician was because I had already watched Season 1 when my parents didn’t change my account or look at it much, and when Season 2 came out, they let me watch it. Thank god they didn’t watch a trailer ;-;
I would sneak one of the T.V shows, but they can see the continue watching, so I’m out of luck. I guess I’ll just have to wait :(
EDIT (4/27/21) → I actually snuck The Assassination Of Gianni Versace: American Crime Story at my grandma’s house. And let me say - the show was AMAZING. One of my new favorite shows. I can’t describe how awesome it was. It was barely sexual or inappropriate, and I could take it. Too bad I can’t tell them though… I’d get caught. But I don’t regret watching it.
电视
我只能看一些我可以和父母一起看的节目和电影。我的网飞（一家媒体播放平台）设置成了一个特定的频道（大约是在TV-14左右），但很多我想看的节目都不在那里（新好莱坞、全季《美国犯罪故事》中的第二季，也就是詹尼·范思哲遇刺案。父母说这两个节目对我来说都太性感了，他们说的可能是真的。不过我想我能应付得了）。
唯一的例外是《富家穷路》和《政治家》，我在我继父的帐户上看。而我被允许观看《政治家》的唯一原因是，我已经看了第一季，当时我的父母还没有改掉我的账户，也没有多看，所以第二季出来后，他们就让我看了。谢天谢地，他们没有看预告片。
我会偷偷看一个电视节目，但他们能看到我的观看记录，我运气不好（会被发现）。所以我想我只能等以后再看了。
编辑于2021年4月27日：实际上，我在我奶奶的房子里看了《刺杀范思哲：美国犯罪故事》。让我说的话，这个节目太棒了。我最近最喜欢的节目之一。我无法形容那有多棒。这个节目几乎不涉及性或不恰当的内容，在我可接受的范围内。可惜我不能告诉他们，不然会被他们抓住（我偷偷看了他们不让我看的节目的证据）。但我不后悔看它。
I can pick who I want to be friends with, but my parents don’t approve sometimes. Apparently some of my friends are bad influences (just because they don’t get great grades). They want me to branch out and meet new people. That’s great and all, but I’d like to stick with my amazing friend group while I walk through high school.
I’m also not allowed to talk to people online and have online friends. Well… uh… oops? I have one close online friend and another I never talk to but I met through one of my rl friends. I also have a bunch of people I’d consider my friends or at least people I’m familiar and friendly with on Quora!
I never really talk to my friends much, as I never have my phone to contact them. It’s sad, really. I mean, I haven’t heard from one of my close friends since June!! Others I’ve talked to a few times, but not as much as one normally does.
I also don’t really hang out with them outside of school (Covid aside). We don’t go out to places as a group (like the mall, the park, around our area, etc). Sometimes a few of us will go somewhere, but that’s only like 4 times a year. During the summer we do more, but still not much.
Grades/School
Oooo, a tough one. Let’s see… anything below an A- is disappointing. And I mean overall grades, not only individual grades. I have mostly A’s and like two B’s on average… but lately my math grade has dropped in the C- range (I’ve been struggling with the topic, and I’m stubborn and don’t ask for help, and this is where it get’s me). I just had a test today, so that’ll determine my future…
I’ll get yelled at if I have bad grades, but it blows over. They’ll make comments sometimes, too. But they’re very strict about that.
EDIT: My math grade is up to a B this marking period.
朋友：我可以选择去和谁做朋友，但我父母有时不同意。显然，我的一些朋友给我带来了一些坏影响（只是因为他们没有取得很好的成绩）。他们想让我去结识新朋友。这很好，不过我还是想继续和我高中时期的朋友们在一起。
他们也不允许我和网上的人聊天，结交网上的朋友。嗯…呃…唉？我有一个亲密的网友和另一个我们从来没有聊过天的朋友，但是是我通过我的一个网友认识。在Quora上，我也有一群我认为是我的朋友或者至少是我熟悉和对我很友好的人！
我从来没有和我的朋友说很多话，我也从来没有电话联系他们。我真的很难过，我是说，自从六月以来我就没有收到过一个好朋友的消息了！我和其他人聊过几次，但都不像平常那样多。
我在校外也不怎么和他们在一起（即使没有新冠肺炎疫情）。我们不会结伴外出（比如商场、公园、我们周围的地方等等）。有时我们中的一些人会一起去某个地方，但也仅仅是每年只会去四次。夏天我们一起玩耍的次数会多一些，但仍然也不算很多。
成绩：哦，这是一个对我来说很困难的方面。让我看看，任何低于A的成绩都是会令人失望的。我指的是整体成绩，而不仅仅是单项的成绩。我基本上都平均会得到一个A，两个B，但最近我的数学成绩降到了C级（我一直在努力解决这个问题，但是我很固执，不会去寻求别人的帮助，这就是我的问题所在了）。我今天刚做了个测试，也就是说，测试的成绩将决定我的未来。
如果我成绩不好，我会被父母骂一顿，但这一切都结束了（我现在成绩还不错）。当然他们有时也还是会发表一些自己的看法。但是他们在成绩方面对我仍旧非常严格。
备注：我的数学成绩已经达到B了。
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We’re Christians. I used to go to CCD every Tuesday, but once I got my communx, I stopped going. Which was a while ago. We never really go to church (sometimes on Easter, but that’s it). Even though we’re not heavily Christian, they still believe in God.
My (biological) dad’s side is kind of like that, too. Some of them go to church all of the time, others don’t really, but they go more than I do. They all believe in God also.
Except me and my (biological) dad. He considers himself an atheist, and after a lot of thinking, I consider myself one, too. His side knows he’s an atheist, but they don’t know I am (besides him, of course).
My parents (back to mom and step-dad) aren’t necessarily not-okay with it, but they’re not all chill. Whenever my brother asks me a question about God, and I’d say something that has to do with me not believing, my parents will go “don’t say that”, and that’s that. I don’t think it’s because they don’t want me to be an atheist, or that their insulted I am… I just think they want my brother to believe in whatever he wants, and for me to not “put ideas in his head” or something.
宗教：我们是基督徒。我以前每个星期二都会去基督城，但自从我参加过了圣餐仪式，我就不去了。那是很久以前的事了。我们从来没有真正去教堂（有时在复活节会去，但也仅仅只在这种情况下会去）。即使我们不是虔诚的基督徒，但他们仍然相信上帝。
我（亲生的）父亲也有点类似。他们有些人经常去教堂，有些人不经常去，但他们都比我去的多。他们也都相信上帝。
除了我和我的亲生父亲。他认为自己是无神论者，经过深思熟虑之后，我也认为自己是无神论者。我亲生父亲那边的亲人知道他是无神论者，但他们不知道我也是无神论者（当然除了我父亲）。
我的父母（再回到妈妈和继父身上）不一定不同意（我是无神论者），但是他们并不都会很冷静。每当我弟弟问我一个关于上帝的问题，我会说一些和我不相信有关的话，这时我父母就会说“别这么说”，但也仅此而已。我不认为这是因为他们不想让我成为一个无神论者，或者说他们侮辱了我，我只是认为他们想让我弟弟去相信他，并且让我不要“把想法放在他的脑袋里”之类的。
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I know my parents are okay with gay and lesbian stuff, but I don’t think they really know how deep this wonderful community gets.
My (step) dad actually made this one comment I found extremely rude, but once I put it straight to him, he agreed. You see, I have a friend who came out as non-binary, but I had no idea. So I called them by their given name in class, and later, they texted me telling them their preferred name. I told my (step) dad the situation, and he said something along the lines of “this is getting ridiculous, changing names…” (probably more in depth, I don’t remember exactly). I told him that if somebody doesn’t feel comfortable with their gender and name, they have the right to change it to make themselves feel at ease. It’s not fair that they wouldn’t be able to be feel like themselves. He agreed.
Again, I don’t think they know or at least are familiar with the more in depth terms, which is something I don’t think I want to get into with them. They can do their own research.
I’m actually questioning my sexuality myself. I originally thought I was bi, then I thought I was pan, but because of a certain comment string, I’m now totally back to where I started. It was a whole thing about pansexuality is really a romantic term, which actually makes sense if you think about it. I also learned that bisexual is now 2+ genders, not just boy and girl, which was new. I’m still getting used to the terms themselves, but at the moment, because of recent discoveries, I think I’m a bisexual panromantic (if the panromantic thing is still in play). I feel like something like that, my parents wouldn’t understand. I’m sure they’d accept me.
My (biological) dad’s side is different. I really don’t know much about their preferences (I don’t see them all the time). I know some of them believe heavily in God, but I don’t know if that means they don’t approve of LGBTQ+ stuff. I’m pretty positive their okay with it, because they’ve watched shows with gay characters, have gay friends, and stuff like that. I don’t think most of them know how deep it gets, either. I also have an old Italian grandma in her 80’s or even 90’s on that side of the family. She’s kinda old fashioned, so I don’t really know what her preferences and views are.
性少数群体
我知道我的父母可以接受同性恋这件事情，但我不认为他们真的知道这个美好的社区的水有多深。
我的继父说了一句让我觉得非常粗鲁的话，但当我直接告诉他时，他赞成了我的观点。我有个朋友自称是非二元性别者（不认为自己是男人或者女人）的，但我不知道。所以我在课堂上就直接叫他们的名字，后来，他们发短信告诉我他们喜欢的名字。我把这个情况告诉了我的继父，他说了一些类似“这太可笑了，换名字……”（可能之后的话题更深入了，我记不清了）之类的话。我告诉他，如果有人对自己的性别和名字感到不舒服，他们有权利改变自己的性别和名字，从而让自己感到舒服。他们感觉这（名字）不像自己。（然而）他同意了（我的观点）。
我想再说一次，我认为他们不知道或者至少不熟悉（关于性少数群体）更深入的术语，这也是我不想和他们接触的原因。他们可以自己做一些关于这个的研究。
事实上，我自己也在质疑自己的性取向。我最初认为我是双性恋，后来我认为我是跨性别者，但因为一些评论，我现在完全又回到了我开始思考的地方。“泛性恋”是一个很浪漫的词，如果你仔细想想，这其实是有道理的。我还了解到双性恋现在是2+性别，而不仅仅是男孩和女孩，这是一个新的词汇。我还在适应这些术语，但目前，经过最近的发现，我认为我是一个双性恋泛浪漫主义者（如果泛浪漫主义的东西还在发挥作用的话）。我觉得这种事情我父母不会理解。但我确定他们肯定会接受我。
但我亲生父亲这边的亲人不一样。我真的不太了解他们的喜好（可能是因为我并不是经常见到他们）。我知道他们中的一些人非常相信上帝，但我不知道这是否意味着他们不赞成性少数群体之类的东西。我很肯定他们会接受，因为他们看过有同性恋角色的节目，他们也有同性恋朋友之类的。但是我想他们中的大多数人也不知道这个群体到底有复杂。我家里还有一位意大利老祖母，她已经八九十岁了。她有点老派，所以我真的不知道她的喜好和（对性少数群体的）看法是什么。
My parents are surprisingly really chill with this one. Obviously they don’t want me to do drugs, but they said that if one day I want to try marijuana or something, I have to do it with them (obviously when I’m older… 14–15 is way to young. Plus, I don’t really have any intentions to at the moment). Actually, it was my parents’ friend, who I call my aunt, who volunteered to do it with me. I love her <3
No smoking or anything like that, though. Especially when they’re not near me.
With drinking… I’m allowed to drink a little when I’m with them. Nothing much - just some High Noon’s or White Claw’s. No more than three or four. And I know it seems like a lot, especially for my age, but I’m only allowed to on special occasions. And my parents don’t just shove them at me - they give me the option if I want more. They warn me about the consequences, and let me make mistakes on my own. I actually am pretty chill with this, and I think it’s fair.
No drinking on any other terms, though. At least not for now.
Cursing
I’m not not allowed to curse. I occasionally say words like damn, hell, jesus christ, and crap, but nothing else. When I’m with my friends or by myself, though, I my list of words extend. But when I’m with my parents, that’s about it.
酗酒、吸毒等
令人惊讶的是，我的父母对这个问题非常冷静。显然，他们不想让我吸毒，但他们说，如果有一天我想尝试大麻或其他东西，我必须和他们一起吸（显然，等我长大了……14、15岁还是太年轻了。另外，我现在真的没有任何打算去尝试这些东西）。实际上，是我父母的朋友，我叫她姨妈，她自愿和我一起做的。我爱她。
但不能抽烟或做类似的事。尤其是他们不在我身边的时候。
和他们在一起的时候我可以喝一点。也不喝其他的，只会喝低度数酒。但也不会超过三四瓶。我知道这看起来太多了，尤其是对我这个年纪来说，但我也只有在特殊场合才被允许喝酒。我的父母不仅仅是把这些酒拿给我，如果我想要更多的话，他们会给我选择。但他们会警告我后果是什么，让我自己来选择是否犯错。我对此也很冷静，我觉得这很公平。
不过，其他条件下他们都不允许我喝酒。至少现在不行。
说脏话
他们不允许我说脏话，我偶尔会说“该死”、“地狱”、“耶稣基督”和“狗屎”之类的话，但除此之外我什么都不会说。不过，当我和朋友在一起或独自一人时，我的词汇表会扩展一些。但当我和父母在一起的时候，我也就这样说说了。
They never look at my watch history or anything, if that’s what you were thinking. They can see when I go on YouTube, but they don’t check what.
I’m not allowed to go on YouTube without permission, though, which is almost never.
Recently I was caught watching YouTube at night when I was supposed to be sleeping, so now YouTube is blocked on my computer, which is just great :)
Music/Spotify
I used to have Spotify, but this year while I was at home (cuz Covid, duh), I was caught listening to music whole I worked, and now I’m not allowed to go on it on any terms. Ever. Because apparently it’s a crime to listen to music while doing homework. Actually, my grades actually dropped a little when they took away the music (ofc they didn’t notice though).
I used to be attatched to the premium family, but my mom removed me once they took away all of my music. I think she thinks she dexed my account, which she didn’t - I just don’t have premium anymore. I don’t say anything, though… I have all these albums I made that I don’t want in the trash!
It’s not like I listen to bad music. I mostly listen to Glee music, Darren Criss music, Broadway music, and others that I find that I enjoy (not radio music, though). Oh, also… my parents took off explicit music for me. Meanwhile, my 7 year old brother has his enabled. Where is the logic there? And even though I’m not apart of the premium family anymore (which means she can’t control my account), explicit music is still taken off! But my 7 year old brother gets to have his on? It makes no sense.
YouTube网站
你是否会这样想：他们从来不会看我的电话手表历史记录或者其他任何东西。（实际上）他们有时会看到我在YouTube上浏览，但他们不会去检查什么。
不过，我不能未经允许就上YouTube，但我也几乎从来没有出现过这种情况。
最近我晚上睡觉时间看YouTube时被发现父母发现了，所以现在我电脑里的YouTube被锁住了，好吧，这也不错。
音乐/ Spotify（声田）：瑞典正版流媒体音乐服务平台
我以前用过声田，但今年我在家的时候（因为新冠肺炎疫情，呵呵），我被他们发现一边写作业一边听音乐，现在我不能用它了，再也不能。因为在做作业的同时听音乐显然是不对的。
事实上，在他们不让我听音乐之后，我的成绩反而下降了一点（当然他们并没有注意到）。
我之前买了声田高级版，但是我老妈给取订了，网站把我（收藏）的所有音乐都给删了，我以为老妈给我把账号删掉了，但其实没有——只是没有续费高级版，我啥也不想说了，里面还有好多我制作的歌单啊，全废了，真的不忍心看到它们就这样被扔了。
我又不是在听烂音乐。我主要听欢乐合唱团的音乐，达伦克里斯斯的音乐，百老汇的音乐，以及其他我喜欢的音乐（但不是广播音乐）。哦，还有，我父母他们以为我听的是露骨的音乐。而与此同时，我7岁的弟弟竟然有了自己的账户。这逻辑在哪里？
I don’t get an allowance :(
I do chores, though. I do laundry often, and I also make my bed and my brother’s bed every morning. I also do the dishes and dishwasher very often.
Gifts/Treats
Don’t get me wrong, my parents aren’t all terrible. They treat us to stuff all the time, and we have really nice stuff.
We’re very fortunate in that sense. Really.
Relationships
I’ve never had a significant other. My (step) dad and brother constantly tease me about boys in my grade, so I’m sure they wont mind. The only rule is I’m not allowed to go on a date with them alone unless they meet them first.
They obviously don’t know I could not be into only boys, so I don’t know where that’ll take us if I ever get a girlfriend or some other significant other.
EDIT (4/27/21) → I actually had an online girlfriend for about a month or so, but I broke up with her. We don’t talk. And I technically have a rl girlfriend (a close friend asked me out after my break up and told me she had a crush on me since middle school), so I said sure. But since covid is a thing, we never really talk (my parents are strict, duh, so I never talk to my friends in general). I don’t know if we’re still a thing or not, but I thought I might as well give it a try. It’s been about a month. But I don’t know if I would count it as an actual real real relationship because we never really talk.
I can’t think of anything else at the moment. I’ll edit if I do, or, you guys can ask.
津贴/家务
我没有零用钱。
不过，我会做家务。我经常会洗衣服，每天早上我还整理我和我弟弟的床。我也经常洗碗。
礼物/待遇
别误会我的意思，我父母并不是每个方面都很糟糕。他们对我们很好，也给我们很多很好的东西。
从这个方面上说，我们真的很幸运。
恋爱关系
我从未有过另一半。我的继父和弟弟经常拿我年级的男生取笑我，所以我相信他们不会介意我有没有另一半。唯一的要求是除非他们先见一次面，否则我不能单独和他们去约会。
他们显然不知道我不可能只喜欢男生，所以我不知道如果我有女朋友或其他重要的人，我的后果会是怎么样。
编辑于2021年4月27日。我其实有个网上的女友，交往了一个月左右，但我和她分手了。我们不怎么会去聊天。
严格来说，我有一个真正的女朋友（一个好朋友在我分手后约我出去，告诉我她从中学开始就喜欢我），所以我说好。但是因为疫情，我们从来没有真正交流过（我的父母很严厉，所以我一般也不会和我的朋友说话）。我不知道我们是否还在一起，但我觉得还是要去试一试。到现在已经一个月了。但我不知道这算不算真正的感情，因为我们从未真正交流过彼此的想法。
我现在想不起别的事了。如果我想起来了了我会补充上去，或者你们可以问我。