你在乎别人恨你吗?
Do you care when people hate you?
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网友：在我的生活中，我遇到过一些我真的无法忍受的人，所以当我知道他们同样鄙视我时，我感到非常高兴。从这个意义上说，我想，我真的在乎。相互仇恨是可以完全满足的......
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Do you care when people hate you?
你在乎别人恨你吗?
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There are a few people I’ve met in my life who I really can’t stand, so it brings me great joy to know that they regard me with the same contempt. In that sense, I suppose, I do care. Reciprocal hatred can be thoroughly satisfying.
There was a time in my life when I felt the need to be liked and if someone didn’t like me, it hurt. However, over the years I’ve come to realise that, for the most part, I don’t really care what people think of me. I am an opinionated person who is not afraid to express his views. I don’t think the list of people who actually hate me is particularly long, but I’m sure there are plenty who dislike me and it doesn’t bother me in the least. I stay true to myself. I stand up for what I believe in. If I incur hatred in the process, so be it.
I’d only really care if the person who hated me was someone I loved, and that’s a situation I’ve never encountered in my life. I had three serious relationships before I met and married my wife. All of them ended amicably. I’m still friends with two of them. I’ve had people I’ve cut out of my life, and a couple who have cut me out of their lives, but none whose absence wounds me in any way. I suppose there’s a period of mourning when any relationship ends, and during that period I might care, but I tend not to dwell too long.
I have all the friends I need and all the love I can endure.
在我的生活中，我遇到过一些我真的无法忍受的人，所以当我知道他们同样鄙视我时，我感到非常高兴。从这个意义上说，我想，我真的在乎。相互仇恨是可以完全满足的。
在我的一生中，曾几何时我觉得需要被人喜欢，如果有人不喜欢我，那就很痛。然而，这些年来我逐渐意识到，在很大程度上，我并不在乎别人怎么看我。我是一个固执己见的人，不怕表达自己的观点。我不认为真正恨我的人的名单会特别长，但我确信有很多人不喜欢我，这一点也困扰不了我。我忠于自己。我坚持我的信仰。如果我在这个过程中招致仇恨，那就这样吧。
我只在乎恨我的人是不是我爱的人，这是我一生中从未遇到过的情况。在我遇见并娶我妻子之前，我有过三段认真的感情。他们都友好地结束了。我和他们两个至今还是朋友。曾经有人从我的生活中消失，还有一对夫妇把我从他们的生活中抹去，但没有任何人的离开对我形成任何伤害。我想当任何一段关系结束时都会有一段哀悼期，在这段时间里我可能会在意，但我想不会在意太久。
我有我需要的朋友和我能忍受的爱。
I personally do not really care if somebody dislikes me or hates me. My belief system, as shown to me by one of my teachers, is that I cannot control what others think of me directly, and that I cannot force them to like me or dislike me. People will formulate their own thoughts and opinions based on what they observe and how they take what they observe.
There have been occasions where this may have bothered me, however as time has passed, I have become more accepting to the fact that somebody dislikes me or hates me. I simply choose not to think about it, and allow them to live out their lives as they wish to without trying to change how they think. Since I started doing this, fewer people seem to dislike me, and those that do have simply left me alone.
Choosing not to let it bother me has allowed me to live my life in a more open and carefree manner, as I am not worrying constantly about what somebody thinks of me. I do not need someone else's approval to approve of myself.
In short, let the haters in short, let the haters hate, and continue being yourself. Thank you for the question!
我个人并不在乎是否有人讨厌我。我的一位老师告诉我，我的信仰体系是，我无法控制别人对我的直接看法，也无法强迫他们喜欢或不喜欢我。人们会根据自己观察到的东西和如何看待所观察到的东西来形成自己的思想和观点。
有些时候这可能会困扰我，但是随着时间的推移，我越来越接受有人不喜欢我或讨厌我的事实。我只是选择不去想，让他们按照自己的意愿生活，而不去改变他们的想法。自从我开始这么做以来，似乎很少有人讨厌我，而那些讨厌我的人也只是不再搭理我而已。
选择不让它困扰我，让我以一种更加开放和无忧无虑的方式生活，因为我不总是担心别人对我的看法。我不需要通过别人的认可来认可我自己。
简言之，让憎恨的人继续憎恨，继续做你自己吧。谢谢你的提问！
In my opinion, if someone hates you, you're doing something right with life.
I'm a firm believer in balance in life. You can never have good without bad, bad without good. It applies to essentially everything you come across; try it out for yourself. For example, a car is great for going long distances, but if it runs out csr then it's just a hunk of metal. Water is essential to your well-being, but excessive water intake will lead to a condition called hyponatremia, which isn't good at all.
When I published my second book, my first two reviews on the book were one stars. Upon further investigation, I realized that they were two of my acquaintances that had a personal vendetta against me. It got to me at first, angry that they would rate my book so poorly without even reading it, accusing me of being money hungry and having the writing level of a high schooler. Eventually I realized three things: they weren't happy with their life and wanted to express their anger out on someone; they were furious that I was doing something that they couldn't accomplish; they want attention.
Haters are there for a reason. Keep doing you, achieve more, surround yourself with the right people, and you will go far in life.
在我看来，如果有人恨你，你就是在做正确的事。
我坚信生活是平衡的。没有坏就没有好，没有好也就没有坏。它基本上适用于你遇到的每件事；你自己试试看。例如，一辆车很适合长途旅行，但如果它跑完了行程，那么它只是一大块金属。水对你的健康是必不可少的，但过量饮水会导致低钠血症，这就看出水一点都不好。
当我出版第二本书时，对我这本书的前两个评论是一颗星。经过进一步调查，我意识到评论者是我的两个熟人，他们对我有私仇。一开始我很生气，他们甚至不看我的书就把我的书评得这么差，指责我缺钱，写作水平像个高中生。最终我意识到三件事：他们对自己的生活不满意，想把愤怒发泄到别人身上；他们对我做了他们做不到的事情感到愤怒；他们需要被关注。
仇恨是有原因的。坚持做你自己，取得更多成就，和对的人同行，你的人生就会走得更远。
Ask yourself why people hates you. If it’s a valid reason may be your behaviour ,temper or some habit then there is no issues in adapting a change because it good for us.However if some hates you without any reason , do you think its worth enough to give a thought as well. It’s a big “No”. Its a scientific-fact that everyone know themselves completely. God has given us a conscious which makes us realise what is right or wrong. Therefore as per my opinion at least give a thought, analyse the reason if its really making sense and if not, chuck it off and be like the way you are because you will always find people who can find 100 reasons to hate other homo companions but life should be dedicated to those who need no reasons to smile at you. :)
问问自己为什么人们讨厌你。如果这是一个合理的原因，可能是你的行为、脾气或某些习惯，那么改就行了，因为这对我们有好处。然而，如果有人无缘无故地恨你，你觉得值得去想吗?大声说“不”。每个人都完全了解自己，这是一个科学事实。上帝给了我们意识，让我们意识到什么是对的，什么是错的。因此，在我看来，如果它真的有意义，至少思考一下，分析一下原因，如果没有，像你现在这样扔掉它，，因为你总会发现有人可以找到100个理由恨其他人，但生命应该奉献给那些自然对你微笑的人。
Hate, or even having a grudge, is like drinking poison and hoping for your enemy to die.
No, personally I don’t care. Hate ages you prematurely and I prefer not to hate. If someone causes me to resent them, I’ll either take action to rectify the issue in a positive fashion or just ignore that person. Hate takes up too much energy. If that individual hates me, he likely doesn’t understand why he does.
仇恨，甚至怀恨在心，就像喝了毒药，让你希望你的敌人去死。
不，我个人不在乎。恨让人过早地衰老，而我宁愿不恨。如果有人让我讨厌他，我要么采取积极的措施改正，要么就忽略那个人。仇恨需要太多的精力。如果那个人讨厌我，他可能都不明白自己为什么讨厌我。
Personally, I don't care if someone likes me or not as it is impossible to please everyone. We should care more about what we can do to improve our lives and not about what others perceive of us. However, if it is someone close to you, you can try and find out the reason, and reflect on your actions. More often than not, people closer to you will give genuine feedback, and you should try and change your ways if possible. However, I would personally recommend that you not listen to too many opinions of others as it can be really depressing.
In conclusion, listen to those who really care about you. Some people will hate you on purpose due to jealousy. Jealousy from others is unavoidable. Just do what you do, and ignore such toxic people.
就我个人而言，我不在乎是否有人喜欢我，因为我不可能取悦所有人。我们应该更关心我们能做些什么来改善我们的生活，而不是关心别人对我们的看法。不过，如果是你身边的人，你可以试着找出原因，反思自己的行为。通常情况下，你身边的人会给出真实的反馈，如果可能的话，你应该尝试改变你的方式。然而，我个人建议你不要听太多别人的意见，因为这真的会让人沮丧。
最后，听听那些真正关心你的人的意见。有些人会因为嫉妒而故意恨你。别人的嫉妒是不可避免的。做你该做的，别理这些人。
Ha! As a senior, I can respond that, generally speaking, no I don't care. However, that depends on who the hater(s) is/are and whether they act on their hatred or not.
The haters are much more uncomfortable than I am, as it takes a lot of energy to hate. Usually, I laugh to myself because there's not a thing they can do about their hate except be miserable. I don't intentionally try to irritate people, so often haters are usually jealous or hating something petty. It's the fact that they can't do anything about it
嗨！作为一名大四学生，我可以回答，一般来说，我不在乎。然而，这取决于仇恨者是谁，以及他们是否会因仇恨而采取某些动作。
恨别人的人比我更不舒服，因为恨别人需要耗费很多精力。通常，我会对自己笑，因为他们对自己的仇恨无能为力除了痛苦。我并不是故意去激怒别人，所以憎恨别人的人通常都是嫉妒或者讨厌一些琐碎的事情。事实上，他们对此无能为力。
If I put so much time in worrying about what other people care about me especially if they hate me I would never get anything done.
Someone is bound to dislike me or talk behind my face and tell others about me. That’s okay since that is their prerogative.
如果我把太多的时间花在担心别人是否关心我，特别是如果他们讨厌我，我将永远完成不了任何事情。
一定会有人不喜欢我，或者在我背后议论我，和别人谈论有关我的事。没关系，因为这是他们的特权。
I’m Muslim so a lot of people probably hate me…. No, I don’t care. That is their choice and as long as they don’t confront or insult me, they can hate all they want. I live my life on my terms regardless of what anyone thinks or says. When one starts stressing over whether someone likes, loves or hates them they are spending too much precious time wasting brain space. As long as those that I love and care about don’t hate me, I’m good.
我是穆斯林，所以很多人可能讨厌我，但我不在乎。这是他们的选择，只要他们不当面侮辱我，他们就可以随心所欲地憎恨我。我按自己的方式生活，不管别人怎么想，怎么说。当一个人开始为某人是喜欢还是讨厌自己而感到压力时，他们浪费了太多宝贵的时间，浪费了大脑空间。只要我爱的和在乎的人不恨我就好。
I seem to as much as I wish I did not! It seems to be of a certain skill to ignore the depth of someone hating me. Such an intensity of emotion. One can not hate a person without initially having much more love then willing to I’m sure admit, and it makes me ponder that in order for that one person to feel such intensity of emotion toward me what was it to drive them to such an intensity of negative emotive state in which they now hate me? Curiousness never usually helps in these things as the person holding such hatred usually isn’t enthusiastic at offering the answer to this question of ‘why’!
我倒希望我不在乎!忽视别人对我的憎恨程度似乎是一种技巧。恨是一种十分强烈的感情。我敢肯定，如果一开始没有更多的爱，那么一个人是不可能恨一个人的,它让我思考, 这让我思考，是什么原因让驱使他们产生这样一种消极而又如此强烈的情感状态，他们现在为什么恨我？在这些事情上，好奇心通常起不到什么作用，因为怀有如此仇恨的人通常不会热心回答“为什么”这个问题!
Yes I used to feel bad if someone known to me suddenly started hating me for no reason. But now I am not bothered about the person who hates me because they are born to psychologicaly hurt others and then they enjoy after their pray is hurt.
我在乎，如果我认识的人突然开始无缘无故地恨我，我就会感觉很难过，但现在我不再为那些恨我的人烦恼，因为他们生来就是要伤害别人，然后他们在祈祷我被伤害后享受快乐。
I care if I have done something that has caused them to hate me. For instance if it’s something I deliberately. The other way around, if I did nothing to provoke them hating me, I really can’t do anything about it… unless I were to sit down and talk about our differences, which usually the person who hates you won’t want to sit down and talk it over. So if I’ve done something to them, I’ll care and try to mediate the situation. Again, if I’ve done nothing to them nor said anything about them, I try not to care. Realize some people just hate without reason, and you can’t stop that. All you can do is walk on in life. :)
我在乎我是否做了什么让他们恨我的事。例如，是否我导致对方恨我的。反过来说，如果我没有做任何事来激怒他们恨我，我就真的无能为力，除非我坐下来谈谈我们之间的分歧，通常恨你的人不会想坐下来讨论这个问题。所以如果我对它们做了什么，我就会关心并尝试调解这种情况。再说一遍，如果我没对他们做过什么，也没说过他们的事，我就尽量不去在意。你要意识到有些人只是毫无理由地憎恨，这是你无法阻止的。你所能做的就是继续生活。
Honestly, at this point, no. Although there is no one that hates me, I know that there are some people who dislike me. I’m too tired to care, the same people who dislike me are the ones who have done me wrong and made my life hell.
老实说，在这一点上，不在乎。虽然没有人恨我，但我知道有些人不喜欢我。我太累了，也懒得去在乎，那些讨厌我的人正是那些对我不好，让我的生活像地狱一样的人。
The simple answer to that will be no. I don't care what people think of me or how they see me or how they are judging me.
But when it's people close to me, about whom I care, I make sure to know their reasons, introspect and try becoming better than I'm. There's no harm in that. We should always change, adapt and upgrade ourselves.
答案很简单，我不在乎别人怎么看我以及怎么评判我。
但如果是我身边的人，我关心的人，我一定要知道他们恨我的原因，反省并努力变得比之前更好。那没有什么坏处。我们要不断改变自己，适应自己，提升自己。
So long as that person is not causing any harm to me or my loved ones physically or spoiling our reputation, I won’t bother about his/her existence.
But if someone actually confronts me and tells me that he/she hates me then I’ll surely ask the reason and correct myself. I’ll also apologize for my mistake(s) and ask for forgiveness. If possible, will have coffee or dinner with him/ her.
只要那个人不给我和我所爱的人造成任何身体上的伤害，不损害我们的名誉，我就不会在意他的存在。
但如果有人真的跟我说他/她讨厌我，我一定会问原因并纠正自己。我也会为我的错误道歉并请求原谅。如果可能的话，和他/她一起喝咖啡或吃饭。