你为什么喜欢帮助别人？
Why do you like helping people?
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网友：首先，对我来说，知道自己帮助了某人感觉会很好。当你知道自己做了正确的事并帮助了别人时，会有一点“自大”的感觉，随之而来的是一点优越感的提升......
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Why do you like helping people?
你为什么喜欢帮助别人？
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Combination of factors.
First, it feels good, to me, to know I helped somebody. There’s that bit of ego-stoking that comes with knowing that you did the right thing and helped somebody out, a bit of a superiority boost comes with that.
Next, in many cases, I tend to help people because it’s necessary, and I like feeling needed. Short person in the grocery store? Sure I’ll grab that thing off the top shelf for you. Wimpy dude has a flat tire and can’t get his lug nuts loosened? Step aside, wimpy dude! Need help with homework? Check out the brain on this guy here!
But, I think the bigger reason is that I still hold out hope that our world can be a better place. We’re currently in a world that is very much in a “me me me” mindset, and I have a feeling it’s going to get a bit worse in the coming years.
原因有很多。
首先，对我来说，知道自己帮助了某人感觉会很好。当你知道自己做了正确的事并帮助了别人时，会有一点“自大”的感觉，随之而来的是一点优越感的提升。
其次，在很多情况下，我倾向于帮助别人，因为我喜欢被需要的感觉。在杂货店碰到矮个子的人时我会帮忙把架子上的东西拿下来。倒霉的家伙车胎瘪了，连车轮螺母都拧不松？让开，倒霉蛋！作业（不会做）需要帮助吗？看看你这家伙的脑子！
但是，我认为更大的原因是我希望我们的世界能变得更好。我们现在所处的世界（很多人）存在非常“自我”的心态，我有一种感觉，未来几年会变得更糟。
I saw gratitude and acknowledgement (by doing this, I may very well have lost out on one of the Black Friday deals, and any minute of delay would end up as more time in the busy cash register lines), and I hope that maybe, just maybe, she may be able to return the favor for somebody else. Maybe, if people will start doing nice things for one another again, we can reverse direction a bit on the path we’re going down.
I know, I know…keep dreaming…but, I still have hope.
在美国，黑色星期五还有两天就要到了，我感到有点沮丧，因为我看到各种各样堕落的人们在商店里争先恐后，互相争夺最后一个玩具，人们把展品弄得乱七八糟等等。我仍然记得，几年前，我看到一个身材矮小的女人，不到5英尺高，在沃尔玛里挣扎着去买一些没用且愚蠢的东西，周围都是一群疯狂的傻子，我从远处看了一会儿，他们之中不讲任何礼貌和礼节，看着这个女人被一再推开。然后我没多想，走上前问她，“你需要哪一个？”，得到了答案后，然后把我加入混乱队伍中，拿出了她需要的东西。
我看到了（来自她的）感激（这样做很可能导致我自己在黑色星期五的交易中会晚一步，任何一分钟的延迟都会导致在繁忙的收银机那里等候更长时间），我希望她也许可以将恩情回报给其他人。如果人们再次开始为彼此提供帮助，我们可以在前进的道路上稍微改变一下方向。
我知道这是在做梦而已。但是，我仍然希望如此。
The only problem with this answer is, no matter how much I try not to, still it’s gonna sound like I am bragging about myself. But, I am just stating the facts which is the need of this answer.
Yes, I do!
I am a helpful person by nature. I have been helping others to my best possible extent.
I do small donations to the NGOs every year, usually for the kids’ welfare. My office sexts NGO every year and circulates email to all employees, and immediately, I do my bit without having any second thoughts about it. This year, I have donated some school stationery and some money.
I have been helping my office colleagues as well. I train them for software and for work related matters. In fact, I am very good at mentoring people. I help them in troubleshooting something that they can't figure out themselves.
这个答案唯一的问题是，无论我如何避免，听起来都像是在自我吹嘘。但是没办法，我只是陈述事实。是的，我确实天生是个乐于助人的人。我一直在尽可能地帮助别人。
我每年都向非政府组织捐款，通常是为了儿童福利。我的办公室每年都会向所有员工发送电子邮件，我会立即尽自己的一份力，没有任何犹豫。今年，我捐了一些文具和钱。
我也一直在帮助我办公室的同事。我对他们进行软件和工作相关的培训。事实上，我很擅长指导别人。我会帮助他们解决一些他们自己无法解决的问题。
Sometimes, I get poem requests from my colleagues for their kids as well. Writing poems for them makes me a kid, too. So, I enjoy it very much.
On Quora, I am the ‘Silent Editor'. I edit other users’ answers, either on my own, or on request by users to check and edit their answers. I enjoy doing this task very much.
I provide guidance to many new users here on Quora. Some of them have turned pro now. My help includes helping them understand the importance of grammar, dos and don'ts of writing, explaining function of Quora, and troubleshooting.
Some of my answers here are intended to help new users with their writing. Some are helpful for existing users, too.
Helping, in general, helps me learn a lot of new things which I may not have known without being helpful. I am always looking for situations where I can challenge my existing skill sets, or just utilize my skills for helping others.
我还为他们制作了简短的宏指令，这样他们的工作就可以更快地完成。注意，像这样的事情不属于我的工作范围。只是我对一些事情比较了解，所以他们问我能不能想出一些快速的方法，减少他们在重复性工作中的所浪费的时间和精力，可以说我是一个很平易近人的人。
有时，同事会让我给他们孩子写诗歌。为他们写诗让我也成了孩子。所以，我对此非常享受。
在Quora上，我是“沉默的编辑”。我可以主动编辑其他用户的答案，也可以根据用户的请求检查和编辑他们的答案。我非常喜欢做这项工作。
我在Quora上为许多新用户提供指导。他们中的一些人现在已经成为专家了。我的帮助包括帮助他们理解语法的重要性，写作的注意事项，解释Quora的功能，以及故障排除。
我这里的一些回答是为了对新用户起到帮助。有些对老用户也会有帮助。
总的来说，帮助他人能帮助我学到很多新的东西，如果没有帮助他人的话，我可能不知道这些东西。我总是在寻找能挑战我现有技能，或者只是利用我的技能帮助别人的场景。
But, my thinking is, if 9 people out of 10 are genuine in asking for my help, I am gonna ignore that 1 greedy person, and continue doing what I usually do - being helpful.
Is there anyway I can help you?
Smiles! :)
然而，和其他事情一样，乐于助人也会存在弊端。有一些人（只是少数人）觉得（或表现出）我只是在为他们付出，而且可以被他们所喜欢的方式利用（为了他们的利益）。
但是，我的想法是，如果10个人中有9个人真诚地请求我的帮助，我会忽略这1个贪婪的人，继续做我通常做的事情——乐于助人。
有什么我能帮你的吗？
微笑！
Why not?? It’s the easiest thing to do. I look for people and places to help, thankfully not to my own detriment. Have I gotten hurt? Mostly no (bloody happy to report!) but have I gotten hurt at some point? Out madame. I have. Your ego must feel satisfied that it found a fault didn’t it? Hear me out: Apparently once you turn adult not everything is black and white. So here’s what I follow.
There is a principal that makes a lot of sense “Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good?” - I Peter 3: 13. You see there is a very large difference between hurt and harm. Sure there are interlixs between them but you cannot confuse the two. Likewise there is difference between your being wise and your being smart.
Being wise helps you show kindness without making it a business. It serves you well in the long run. Being smart makes your kindness a business. It serves you well temporarily. Later people come collecting. Being smart in any area means that you know what questions to ask. Being wise is all about whether to ask that question in the first place. This logic is no different in the area of hospitality. ALWAYS CHOOSE WISDOM OVER BEING SMART.
为什么不？这是最容易做的事。我会寻找对象和地方来帮助他人，谢天谢地，这不会损害到我自己。我有受伤吗？基本上没有（我很乐意这么说！）但我有没有在某些方面受过伤呢？我有。你的自尊心一定很满意，因为（帮助他人）引发现了问题，不是吗？听我说：一旦你长大就会发现并不是所有的事情都是非黑即白的。所以下面就是我要说的。
有一则经文很有道理，“你们若是热心行善，有谁害你们呢？ “——《彼得福音》。你看受伤和伤害有很大的区别。当然它们之间有联系，但你不能混淆。同样，明智和聪明之间也有区别。
明智有助于你表现出善意，而不是把它当成生意。从长远来看，这对你很有好处。聪明使你的善良成为生意。它暂时为你服务，后来人们会做出选择。在任何领域都聪明意味着你知道该问什么问题。明智的关键在于是否首先提出这个问题。这种逻辑在待客方面没有什么不同。但始终要选择明智而不是聪明。
Because humans aren’t perfect your past hurt should have taught you well that not everyone treats you like you do yourself. Hurt is their way of expressing their lack. I hurt because I trusted them not to hurt me. Those who treat you better than you treat yourself or just as equally deserve your company. You can’t ask for a better filter in your company than this. Learn to be sextive and choose your battles wisely. Proves me point about who can harm you when you are eager to do good. Yes?
People who expect a hand in and not a hand out are people I stay a galaxy and an universe away from. They are only takers. Giving is too much and too expensive for them. They have the poorest self esteem and will use their own faults and exploit them against you. Such people are not worth a dime. You have to know yourself very well and add tax to your worth to such people. Otherwise don’t be too surprised that you done got usurped.
作为一个人，你去理解你的受众要做出深思熟虑的选择。明白人不是完美的。同时也要明白，你的精神、情感、财力、体力储备都是有限的。你每天只有那么多的精力去应对那一天的挑战。所以明智点。
因为人类并不是完美的，你过去的受到伤害应该很好地教会你，不是每个人对待你的方式都像你对待你自己一样。受伤是展现缺点的方式。我受伤是因为我相信他们不会伤害我。那些对你比你对自己还要好的人或许是同样值得你陪伴的人。你不能要求公司有比这更好的筛选方法。学会有选择性，明智地选择你的战斗（方向）。证明了我的观点：当你渴望做好事的时候，谁会伤害你。
那些希望得到帮助而不帮助别人的人，我会离他们远远的。他们只是索取者。给予对他们来说太珍贵了。他们自尊心很弱，会利用自己的缺点来攻击你。你必须非常了解自己，按照自己的价值标准掂量那些人。否则就不要为自己被篡位而感到惊讶。
There is nothing romantic about helping people. It is only a mark of your character. As long as you have life inside you there is always room for improvement. As long as you believe that God is for you expect your life to be blessed. Always be in the business of acquiring wealth not riches.
I hope this helps. Thank you for personally asking me to reply. Many HUGS!!!
有些人值得忍受痛苦。如果他们值得受苦，那么他们所给予的任何帮助都将被铭记并得到祝福。为什么？因为人们记得的不是你为他们做了什么，而是你给他们的感觉。你会惊讶于生活是如何反过来回馈祝福于你的：你在家庭、职业、生活中得到了本不应得的恩惠，这些都不是巧合。事实上，你几乎不认识的人在某个特定的时刻无私地为你辩护或帮助你，这根本不是巧合。这就是生活和天堂对你的祝福，就像你曾祝福某人一样，尤其是当他们不配的时候。
帮助别人一点也不浪漫。这只是你性格的一个特点。只要你还活着，总会有改进的空间。只要你相信上帝是为你而设，你的生命就会得到祝福。永远去追求财富而不是财富本身。
我希望这能有所帮助。谢谢你亲自邀请我回复。给你大大的拥抱！
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I’ll give you an example. I’m just a student who gets his limited pocket money from his parents.
A few days back I went to a juice shop with my friend. I had cough and cold and I was just accompanying my friend who was having a glass of mango juice (the main reason was, I didn’t have enough money for a glass of juice). A small girl child with messy hairs and dull clothes to my friend asking for money. My friend scared him away saying, “I don’t have money, just go away” like many others. She was skinny and weak. I took no other second, asked the child to come with me to a nearby shop. I asked the shopkeeper for a large packet of biscuits. I gave it to the child.
I asked the shopkeeper if it’s okay if I pay him the money the next day, for which he happily agreed (the shop is near my college and I use to go there almost everyday and he knows me very well).
The child took the packet of biscuits and gave a happy look and went away with it, eating biscuits.
*The look which she gave me before she went away with told everything. She was hungry, maybe for days.
On my way back to hostel, I saw that child sitting with other 2 children near a rickshaw stand and sharing biscuits with them. I wish I could have done something better for them.
I help others not to expect anything from them. I help others because I feel happy. The smiles which I see after helping someone makes my day. When I feel lonely, I recall about them and I smile. There are many less fortunate people around us. Even a small step can make them feel special.
我给你举个例子。我只是一个从父母那里得到有限零花钱的学生。
几天前我咳嗽感冒，我和朋友去了一家果汁店，朋友喝芒果汁，我陪着他而已（主要原因是我没有足够的钱买一杯果汁）。一个头发凌乱、衣服呆板的小女孩向我的朋友要钱。我的朋友吓跑了他，并且像其他人一样说：“我没有钱，滚！”她又瘦又弱。我不假思索就带孩子一起去附近的一家商店。我向店主要了一大包饼干，并把它给了那个孩子。
我问店主，我是否可以第二天再给他钱，他很高兴地答应了（商店离我的大学很近，我几乎每天都去那里，他很了解我）。
孩子拿起那包饼干，高兴地看了一眼后就带着饼干走了。
*她临走前的眼神告诉了我一切。她可能饿了好几天了。
在我回旅馆的路上，我看见那个孩子和另外两个孩子坐在一个人力车位旁边，一起分享饼干。我真希望我能帮他们做一些更好的事情。
我帮助别人时不会期望他们有任何回报。我帮助别人是因为我感到快乐。在帮助别人后对方的微笑能使我感到开心。当感到孤独的时候，回想起他们，我会不自觉地微笑。我们身边有很多不幸的人。哪怕是一个很小的举动，都能让他们感到与众不同。
In general, I like helping others. In case of how hard and how much level of energy required to solve other people's problems, it depends on my condition on this time, like my fitness level, mood, etc.
Helping others can be fun. Energy that we give to solve others problem, somehow will back to us in beautiful and unpredictable way.
Don't try to think about egoistic people don't like to helping others. According to benefit of helping people is we get the benefit too, the most helpful people in the world is the most (altruism) egoistic people in the world.
Conclusion is, if you feel you are egoistic people, don't try too hard to change your personality for being nice. Just redefine the meaning of egoistic itself.
总的来说，我喜欢帮助别人。如果说解决别人需要付出多大的努力和精力，那就要看我这段时间的状况，比如我的体能水平、心情等。
帮助别人很有趣。我们为解决别人的问题付出精力，在某种情况下将以美丽而无法预测的方式回馈给我们。
不要试着去想那些自私的人，他们不喜欢帮助别人。从帮助别人的好处来看，我们也从中受益，世界上最乐于助人的人就是世界上最无私的人，也可以说是最利己的人。
结论是，如果你觉得自己是自私自利的人，请不要为了保持友善而努力地改变自己的性格。只是需要重新定义利己主义本身的意义就可以。
Drowning (both literally, and figuratively) people can easily drown you as you try to rescue them.
I'm preprogrammed to literally dash to help others in physical need. I can catch glasses of water falling off of tables, push people out of the way of forklifts, and catch people about to fall off a cliff/balcony.
I grew up in a small town, where It was simply a given for my mom to make lemonade/iced tea for firemen a block or two away, then sending me, a 5-9 year old girl to serve the glasses in a tray to the melting volunteers, bring the empty glasses back, and take more full ones out, while mom washed the returns to refill. We had 5 fires a block radius away in 5 years. I don't know what caused 2 of the fires, but one was set by the building owner to collect insurance after the post office stopped renting due to water dripping on the mail, a 2nd by twin children of the hotel's widowed owner, and a 3rd by the mayor's grandchild -- both of these playing with matches - the first was a window curtain that destroyed the entire hotel, her only source of income.
Our propensity to help others put us at risks no city person would dare. My mother, on her way to pick me up at school to rush to a scheduled doctor appointment, stopped to give a ride to our hitchhiking town drug dealer, Matt, because he was trying to get to his one mandatory English class for senior year. I was just a little girl and I still tore her up one side and down the other for doing that, but she said he was trying to rehab himself. Of course this didn't last. Mere weeks later, Matt stole our mayor's wife's family heirloom jewelry while indoors from swimming in the in ground pool with their son, supposedly just to go to the bathroom -- their son later burst into Matt's dad's place and found the few items Matt hadn't instantly sold for drugs yet.
One thing I soon learned what that becoming friends with absolutely everyone was not a good idea.
当你试图营救溺水者（无论是字面上的，还是比喻上的）时，他们很容易导致你一起溺死。
我就是为去帮助那些需要帮助的人而生的。我能抓到从桌子上掉下来的水杯，把人从叉车旁边推开，还能拉住即将从悬崖或阳台上摔下去的人。
我在一个小镇上长大，在那里，我妈妈从事简单的工作，被安排给一两个街区外的消防队员泡柠檬水或冰茶，然后让我这个5-9岁的小女孩把盘子里的茶端给好心的志愿者，之后把空玻璃杯拿回来，待妈妈则把杯子洗干净再装满后我再把装满了茶的玻璃杯拿出来。在5年内，我们方圆一个街区外发生了5起火灾。我不知道是什么引起了其中两起火灾，但其中一起是在邮局因漏水导致水滴在邮件上而停止租房后，大楼主人为了领取保险金而引发的火灾，第二起是旅馆丧偶的老板的双胞胎孩子造成的，第三起是市长的孙子造成的；这两起都是由于玩火柴造成的——第一起是从窗帘开始起火，然后毁了整个酒店，这是她唯一的收入来源。
我们帮助别人的意愿使我们处于任何市民都不敢冒的危险之中。我母亲在去学校接我再赶去见已预约的医生的路上，停下来让顺路的毒贩子马特搭便车，因为他想去上大四必修的英语课。我那时还是个小女孩，我仍然反对她那样做，但她说他正在努力改造（戒毒）。当然，这并没有持续多久。仅仅几周后，我们市长夫人和他们的孩子在室内游泳池游泳时，马特偷走了他们的传世珠宝，据说当时只是为了上厕所——他们的儿子后来在马特父亲的住处，发现了马特还没有来得及卖掉的几件毒品。
我很快就明白了，和每个人交朋友绝对不是个好主意。
Why would some one not like to help ? If you are good at something or capable of contributing at least some thing back why hesitate ?
What if one fine day our Mother Earth realises that it has helped us enough in providing us with oxygen, water, etc and it stops that.
We cannot survive in isolation. Each one of us need help in some or the other way. Despite knowing that we will also need help from others at one point of time we still turn selfish and do not pay any heed to any hand needing help.
However we should help others not because we seek help in return but just to carry forward the principle of humanity. To make others realise that they are not alone.
“I believe the world is a big family and we need to help each other” and also “No one has ever become poor by giving”.
为什么有人不愿意帮忙？如果你擅长某件事或者至少有能力做出贡献，为什么还要犹豫呢？
如果某一天天气晴朗，我们的地球母亲意识到它在为我们提供氧气、水等方面给予了我们足够的帮助后剥夺了这一切。这时我们是无法生存的。我们每个人都需要某种帮助。尽管我们知道我们也会在某个时刻需要别人的帮助，我们却变得自私，不理会任何需要帮助的人。
其实，我们应该帮助别人，不是因为我们寻求回报，而是为了弘扬人道主义。让别人意识到他们并不孤单。
我相信世界是一个大家庭，我们需要互相帮助，还有从来没有人因为付出而变得贫穷。
To be honest, yes. I don't like most people because they're not as self-aware as me. If you ever see me doing something for someone else it is in order to feel good about myself. I'm very self-centered.
说实话，大多数人我都不是很喜欢，因为他们没有我那么有自知之明。如果你看到我为别人做一些事情，那是我为了让自己感觉良好。我是一个以自我为中心的人。
I think Gratefulness and Helping go hand in hand.
Once you are grateful for something you already have, accepting it on the whole with all the flaws you experience a feeling of sublime happiness which you want another human to experience as well.
You tend to observe any person in the hunt for the feeling and you now want the person to experience the same joy. That is when you become selfless and offer anything to make him succeed.
我认为感激和帮助是相辅相成的。
一旦你对你已经拥有的东西心存感激并接受它的所有缺点，你就会体验到一种崇高的幸福感，你希望其他人也能体验到这种幸福感。
你倾向于观察任何一个在寻找这种感觉的人，而且你想让这个人体验到同样的快乐。此时的你变得无私，并愿意为他的成功奉献一切。
Yes i do love doing that in what ever way it is possible . Helping others makes me feel happy and satisfied . If i’m good at something i definitely use it to help others. Though i helped my friends in explaining them the tough topics before exam as i was expert in grasping things quickly . And i hope i help many in near future as i dream of .
是的，我喜欢尽我所能去帮助他人。帮助别人让我感到快乐和满足。如果我擅长某件事，我肯定会用它来帮助别人。因为我很擅长学习东西，甚至在考试前我都会帮助我的朋友解答那些让他们感到困难的题目。我希望在不久的将来，我能像我梦想的那样帮助很多人。