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I (30F) am a white American woman. My ex-boyfriend, the father of my daughter (30M) is Chinese-American. We began dating our junior year of college, and after graduation moved in together. We eventually got serious enough to consider marriage, and I began learning Chinese as a way of connecting to his culture and family. I''m not totally fluent, but I can hold fairly complex conversations.

我是一个三十岁的美国白人女性,而我的前男友,我女孩她爹,则是一个30岁的美国华人。我们从大学三年级时开始约会,毕业后便搬到了一起住。我们的关系曾发展到了开始认真考虑结婚的地步,而我也从那时候开始学习中文,我把学习中文看成一种与他的文化和家庭相连的方式。我的中文并不是很流利,但是我能进行相当复杂的对话。



I''ve been attempting to raise my daughter with some skill in Chinese language. I speak to her in Chinese, watch Chinese TV with her, and have recently started giving her some kiddy workbooks in Chinese language.

我试图在抚养女儿时确保她能够学到一些中文。我用中文和她对话,和她一起看中文电视节目,并且最近还开始给了她一些中文的儿童练习册。

Last time her father visited, though, he was very upset to see those workbooks in my home. He told me that Chinese culture isn''t mine to impart on my daughter, and that any form of Chinese culture I try to engage in with my daughter will be completely unauthentic. He said that, though DNA-wise my daughter is Chinese, she functionally has no real cultural connection to China, and that it''s super cringey of me to try. He told me to stop, and that it should be his decision, as it''s his culture.

然而,上次她老爹过来拜访时,看见了我家中的那些练习本,他很不高兴。他告诉我,我没有权利传授我女儿中国文化,而且还说我向女儿灌输的任何形式的中国文化都是完全不真实的。他说虽然我的女儿在基因层面是个中国人,但是她实际上与中国没有真正的文化联系,而我向她传授中国文化的行为实在是太让人尴尬了。他让我停止这么做,因为是否向女儿传授中国文化本该由他来决定,因为这是他的文化。


Idk. AITA?

我不知道了,这么做的我是否是个混蛋?